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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 377204" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>There are a whole lot of things that could be going on with your daughter. first of all, she is not CHOOSING to behave this way. NO child truly wants to be an outcase, to have everyone upset with them. If you can look at this as her being UNABLE to react differently, then you may find that you have a whole lot more tolerance and acceptance for her. </p><p> </p><p>The therapist's advice re: cutting down white flour is good for all of us, but in my opinion is not likely to do much for your daughter. Going gluten free for about 6 weeks will let you know if gluten is part of your child's problems. It is WELL worth the effort if your child is one who reacts to gluten. You would likely see an ENTIRELY different child after about 4-6 weeks, with significant changes in between. There are a TON of GOOD recipes and even gluten free mixes on store shelves. Going Casein free is also helpful. Casein is a protein in dairy. Many items you wouldn't suspect of having dairy actually have casein in them, so you have to learn to read every label. AGain, tons of good recipes and if your child reacts to casein the payoffs for eliminating it are HUGE.</p><p> </p><p>Of course if you eliminate these and she gets a lot better then the diet has to become permanent. Quite a few parents here have gotten life-long dramatic improvements using a girlfriend/cf diet.</p><p> </p><p>There are a lot of other things to do. Increasing the protein is a good tool. Many kids are better able to cope if they have a decent amount of protein in their diet. If you pick up one of "The Zone" diet books or cookbooks by Dr. Barry Sears they offer recipes with balanced amounts of fat, protein and carbs. In a child who does NOT respond to the girlfriend/cf diet (or who's parents are too overwhelmed to take that step right now), this is a fairly easy way to help your child have the tools to face the world. Right after school she should have a snack that has a good amt of protein - before she does much else. Try a few ounces of deli meat, if you have to go to the grocery make your first stop after a cart be the deli where you get popcorn chicken, a chicken leg (my kids called them bones and pretended they were dogs - lots of growling and sometimes only barked at me during the trip. Esp at ages 6-9), and if ALL else fails, stock up on Zone and Balance nutrition bars - both brands are balanced with 40% carb-30% protein-30%fat. Many kids just think they are a new candy bar. They have a LOT of varieties and will do a whole lot more to give you a reasonable child than a candy bar will.</p><p> </p><p>That (increasing protein) is a quick change. There are a bunch of other things we recommend. First is reading "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Also reading Parenting with Love and Logic by Fay and Cline (<a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com" target="_blank">www.loveandlogic.com</a> though books are available at all bookstores). You also need to have your daughter evaluated for learning disorders and other problems. I STRONGLY recommend finding a neuropsychologist to do a complete evaluation of her. It will help you figure out why she is reacting the way she is.</p><p> </p><p>Given the wide range of things that bother her, I also strongly recommend that you find a private Occupational Therapist to evaluate your daughter for sensory integration disorder. It is a condition where the brain does not process input from the senses in an appropriate way. It can cause problems in every aspect of life and can be treated quite effectively in most cases. To put it plainly, what your daughter experiences in a situation may be very different than what you or someone with-o Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) experiences in the same situation because your daughter's brain is not giving the same messages about what is going on that other people are getting from their brains. The therapy does not involve medication and can make HUGE differences.</p><p> </p><p>School will have Occupational Therapist (OT)'s who can evaluate her, but they will miss a lot of the ways Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) could be appearing because they look for how it effects education, not her entire life. A private Occupational Therapist (OT) will be vastly more thorough and can train you in any appropriate therapies to help.</p><p> </p><p>As you start this process of evaluations and accommodations, you should also work on a Parent Report. There is a link in my signature that will take you to an outline on this board. It is a document you put together that tells everyone who helps your child all about her. It will help you keep everything organized and it is invaluable and priceless.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 377204, member: 1233"] There are a whole lot of things that could be going on with your daughter. first of all, she is not CHOOSING to behave this way. NO child truly wants to be an outcase, to have everyone upset with them. If you can look at this as her being UNABLE to react differently, then you may find that you have a whole lot more tolerance and acceptance for her. The therapist's advice re: cutting down white flour is good for all of us, but in my opinion is not likely to do much for your daughter. Going gluten free for about 6 weeks will let you know if gluten is part of your child's problems. It is WELL worth the effort if your child is one who reacts to gluten. You would likely see an ENTIRELY different child after about 4-6 weeks, with significant changes in between. There are a TON of GOOD recipes and even gluten free mixes on store shelves. Going Casein free is also helpful. Casein is a protein in dairy. Many items you wouldn't suspect of having dairy actually have casein in them, so you have to learn to read every label. AGain, tons of good recipes and if your child reacts to casein the payoffs for eliminating it are HUGE. Of course if you eliminate these and she gets a lot better then the diet has to become permanent. Quite a few parents here have gotten life-long dramatic improvements using a girlfriend/cf diet. There are a lot of other things to do. Increasing the protein is a good tool. Many kids are better able to cope if they have a decent amount of protein in their diet. If you pick up one of "The Zone" diet books or cookbooks by Dr. Barry Sears they offer recipes with balanced amounts of fat, protein and carbs. In a child who does NOT respond to the girlfriend/cf diet (or who's parents are too overwhelmed to take that step right now), this is a fairly easy way to help your child have the tools to face the world. Right after school she should have a snack that has a good amt of protein - before she does much else. Try a few ounces of deli meat, if you have to go to the grocery make your first stop after a cart be the deli where you get popcorn chicken, a chicken leg (my kids called them bones and pretended they were dogs - lots of growling and sometimes only barked at me during the trip. Esp at ages 6-9), and if ALL else fails, stock up on Zone and Balance nutrition bars - both brands are balanced with 40% carb-30% protein-30%fat. Many kids just think they are a new candy bar. They have a LOT of varieties and will do a whole lot more to give you a reasonable child than a candy bar will. That (increasing protein) is a quick change. There are a bunch of other things we recommend. First is reading "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Also reading Parenting with Love and Logic by Fay and Cline ([URL="http://www.loveandlogic.com"]www.loveandlogic.com[/URL] though books are available at all bookstores). You also need to have your daughter evaluated for learning disorders and other problems. I STRONGLY recommend finding a neuropsychologist to do a complete evaluation of her. It will help you figure out why she is reacting the way she is. Given the wide range of things that bother her, I also strongly recommend that you find a private Occupational Therapist to evaluate your daughter for sensory integration disorder. It is a condition where the brain does not process input from the senses in an appropriate way. It can cause problems in every aspect of life and can be treated quite effectively in most cases. To put it plainly, what your daughter experiences in a situation may be very different than what you or someone with-o Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) experiences in the same situation because your daughter's brain is not giving the same messages about what is going on that other people are getting from their brains. The therapy does not involve medication and can make HUGE differences. School will have Occupational Therapist (OT)'s who can evaluate her, but they will miss a lot of the ways Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) could be appearing because they look for how it effects education, not her entire life. A private Occupational Therapist (OT) will be vastly more thorough and can train you in any appropriate therapies to help. As you start this process of evaluations and accommodations, you should also work on a Parent Report. There is a link in my signature that will take you to an outline on this board. It is a document you put together that tells everyone who helps your child all about her. It will help you keep everything organized and it is invaluable and priceless. [/QUOTE]
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