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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 739355" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>I don’t know all the details of what you’ve been through with your son, but I hope and pray this will be a positive direction for him. Are you in contact? Can you form a relationship with your daughter-in-law and child?</p><p></p><p>A few years ago, N (son #2) was coming off of a difficult time - served prison time for drug charges, drunk and disorderly, assaulting an officer. When his parole was up he decided to move 2000 miles away to look for a fresh start. I heard nothing for months, and then he called out of the blue to say he was getting married to a woman with a 9 year old son and converting to Islam. He was 26 at the time. To say I was floored would be an understatement. I flew out for the wedding the next week. She’s from Afghanistan and very lovely. I was terrified for all of them - it all seemed like a very, very bad idea. But ... you never know. It has not been without some bumps in the road, but for the most part he’s stepped up. They have a son together who is turning 3 this fall. N fell off the wagon for a bit, but she made it clear she was not putting up with it. He’s been completely clean for over a year now, as verified by her. He’s working hard and finishing a trade apprenticeship. (I don’t think the Islam conversion stuck, but she doesn’t seem to care -I think that was more for her family.) She and her son have become very dear to me - they both call me all the time, more than my son does. The baby is, of course, adorable. I get out there when I can and the older boy spends part of the summers with me. N seems very motivated to do what he has to do to protect the family he has formed, even if it did all seem very sudden and ill advised at the time. </p><p></p><p>So...you just never know. As Copa said, there is always hope for change, if they find something they want to change for. Could this be it?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 739355, member: 23349"] I don’t know all the details of what you’ve been through with your son, but I hope and pray this will be a positive direction for him. Are you in contact? Can you form a relationship with your daughter-in-law and child? A few years ago, N (son #2) was coming off of a difficult time - served prison time for drug charges, drunk and disorderly, assaulting an officer. When his parole was up he decided to move 2000 miles away to look for a fresh start. I heard nothing for months, and then he called out of the blue to say he was getting married to a woman with a 9 year old son and converting to Islam. He was 26 at the time. To say I was floored would be an understatement. I flew out for the wedding the next week. She’s from Afghanistan and very lovely. I was terrified for all of them - it all seemed like a very, very bad idea. But ... you never know. It has not been without some bumps in the road, but for the most part he’s stepped up. They have a son together who is turning 3 this fall. N fell off the wagon for a bit, but she made it clear she was not putting up with it. He’s been completely clean for over a year now, as verified by her. He’s working hard and finishing a trade apprenticeship. (I don’t think the Islam conversion stuck, but she doesn’t seem to care -I think that was more for her family.) She and her son have become very dear to me - they both call me all the time, more than my son does. The baby is, of course, adorable. I get out there when I can and the older boy spends part of the summers with me. N seems very motivated to do what he has to do to protect the family he has formed, even if it did all seem very sudden and ill advised at the time. So...you just never know. As Copa said, there is always hope for change, if they find something they want to change for. Could this be it? [/QUOTE]
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