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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 396116" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>Oh,my, you certainly do have your work cut out for you. And you're doing a great job so far. My guess is that those kids are craving limits. Kayla might be very confused, but my guess is that she would like nothing more than to completely assume the role of the child. Her taking on adult roles at times were probably out of necessity. They will learn,by your being consistant, that children do not make big decisions (but do allow them the power to make small ones), that children do not debate with adults over decisions and that the rules are in place for their own good. They will accept this over time.</p><p> </p><p>The babying would bother me, too. Most likely, they need a little of it. By reading Kayla "Little House on the Prarie", you're giving her the warm, special attention every child craves ... attention she may have gotten precious little of in the past. By reading to her, you'll expose her to the words and that will help her reading and spelling skills. Have her follow along with you. Her crying while watching the movie breaks my heart. That poor little girl has beent hrough so much. Praise her to high heaven when she exhibits age-appropriate independance but allow her special moments of being a child.</p><p> </p><p>With things like bathing and dressing, I would simply expect Alex to do it. I would praise him when he is succesful and then move on to setting higher goals. When my daughter was that age, the praise and reward system worked very well. He (like my daughter) sounds very attention-seeking with the zillions of questions. Sounds like you're handling that part very well. Answer once and ignore.</p><p> </p><p>I hate to say this, but I doubt that bringing this up to Katie and M is going to do a darned thing. They are taking the road of least resistance with raising their kids - as they are in life. The only way you're going to help is through the kids themselves, as you are now. I would not waste my energy trying to educate the parents.</p><p> </p><p>Many hugs to you.</p><p>dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 396116, member: 9175"] Oh,my, you certainly do have your work cut out for you. And you're doing a great job so far. My guess is that those kids are craving limits. Kayla might be very confused, but my guess is that she would like nothing more than to completely assume the role of the child. Her taking on adult roles at times were probably out of necessity. They will learn,by your being consistant, that children do not make big decisions (but do allow them the power to make small ones), that children do not debate with adults over decisions and that the rules are in place for their own good. They will accept this over time. The babying would bother me, too. Most likely, they need a little of it. By reading Kayla "Little House on the Prarie", you're giving her the warm, special attention every child craves ... attention she may have gotten precious little of in the past. By reading to her, you'll expose her to the words and that will help her reading and spelling skills. Have her follow along with you. Her crying while watching the movie breaks my heart. That poor little girl has beent hrough so much. Praise her to high heaven when she exhibits age-appropriate independance but allow her special moments of being a child. With things like bathing and dressing, I would simply expect Alex to do it. I would praise him when he is succesful and then move on to setting higher goals. When my daughter was that age, the praise and reward system worked very well. He (like my daughter) sounds very attention-seeking with the zillions of questions. Sounds like you're handling that part very well. Answer once and ignore. I hate to say this, but I doubt that bringing this up to Katie and M is going to do a darned thing. They are taking the road of least resistance with raising their kids - as they are in life. The only way you're going to help is through the kids themselves, as you are now. I would not waste my energy trying to educate the parents. Many hugs to you. dash [/QUOTE]
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