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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 136135"><p>I just went through something like this on a weird easy child scale no less.</p><p>Someone told me about their kid going to law school and getting engaged. I told her about our son getting engaged, having a lead on a job and looking for a scholarship for graduate school (part time). I "thought" I sensed that she didn't think this was in the same league. However, in my mind they are both examples of children doing very well and they are to be commended for their hard work.</p><p> </p><p>My own therapist once told me about her son who is ADD and had some school (grade/homework) issues. I was taken aback. I didn't think it was in the same league as our difficult child who can make some pretty scarey impulsive moves that could relate in harm to herself. </p><p> </p><p>I guess, even as I type this, I realize that although it is VERY hard to do, we should avoid making comparisons and that we need to take pride in the little accomplishments of our difficult children. Hopefully, we will have friends that will understand this situation.</p><p> </p><p>AND it might also be beneficial to have friends in both worlds.</p><p> </p><p>I know when I am with moms excessively who don't have difficult children (or who deny that they have a difficult child) it can be very annoying almost painful. I absolutely can NOT tolerate a stuck up cruel non-understanding easy child mom or one that speaks excessively of their child's accomplishments. One that "gets it," is okay.</p><p> </p><p>At the same time, I'm not sure I would want to be exclusively with moms of difficult children. However, I am GREATLY (big time) appreciative of their understanding and likewise I can sympathize and offer my support for their pain.</p><p> </p><p>Yep...this aspect of the entire business has been one of the more difficult/confusing/conflicting and lonely parts of being the mom of a difficult child.</p><p>Sigh. </p><p> </p><p>Bottom line: I do believe I understand where you are coming from and yep, Stars words resonated with me as well. However, I don't "avoid" moms of easy child kids, I have limited it to a certain extent and pick and chose.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 136135"] I just went through something like this on a weird easy child scale no less. Someone told me about their kid going to law school and getting engaged. I told her about our son getting engaged, having a lead on a job and looking for a scholarship for graduate school (part time). I "thought" I sensed that she didn't think this was in the same league. However, in my mind they are both examples of children doing very well and they are to be commended for their hard work. My own therapist once told me about her son who is ADD and had some school (grade/homework) issues. I was taken aback. I didn't think it was in the same league as our difficult child who can make some pretty scarey impulsive moves that could relate in harm to herself. I guess, even as I type this, I realize that although it is VERY hard to do, we should avoid making comparisons and that we need to take pride in the little accomplishments of our difficult children. Hopefully, we will have friends that will understand this situation. AND it might also be beneficial to have friends in both worlds. I know when I am with moms excessively who don't have difficult children (or who deny that they have a difficult child) it can be very annoying almost painful. I absolutely can NOT tolerate a stuck up cruel non-understanding easy child mom or one that speaks excessively of their child's accomplishments. One that "gets it," is okay. At the same time, I'm not sure I would want to be exclusively with moms of difficult children. However, I am GREATLY (big time) appreciative of their understanding and likewise I can sympathize and offer my support for their pain. Yep...this aspect of the entire business has been one of the more difficult/confusing/conflicting and lonely parts of being the mom of a difficult child. Sigh. Bottom line: I do believe I understand where you are coming from and yep, Stars words resonated with me as well. However, I don't "avoid" moms of easy child kids, I have limited it to a certain extent and pick and chose. [/QUOTE]
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