Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
I do not like being a sandwich! Warning - pity party happening here
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 327883" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I was in the sandwich generation for a large part of my life. Ok...not large but from the time my kids were mid teens upward. My mom had alzheimers. Even before that she was a problem. We always knew there was something wrong with her. I dont have any siblings. </p><p></p><p>When my mom finally got to the stage that it became evident that she was...well...out of her mind, it all fell on me. I got a call one day and she was in her bank trying to withdraw money from her bank account but she couldnt tell them her name but she had a check book and there was a man with her that wasnt my oldest son who lived with her at the time, who the bank knew. They called Social Services, who in turn called me. </p><p></p><p>I was told I had to come do something about her RIGHT THEN or I would be charged with negligence to an elder and parental abuse! How bout them apples? LOL. This woman who had abused me all my life and I was going to be charged with abusing her...ironic. </p><p></p><p>I ended up having to bring her up to live with me and my family. My kids, my SO and I had to take care of her as long as we could until her illness just became so debilitating that it was more than we could do at home. Then she had to go into a nursing home. She died within a year. I think we gave her what we could. </p><p></p><p>I ended up having to quit my job about a year earlier than I would have to had I not had to care for her. My health issues were hitting me hard and heavy back then but I think I may have been able to hang on maybe another year. Maybe. She forced me to have to quit right then. </p><p></p><p>This is never an easy situation to be in. You really need to check out your state laws because if its like it is here, they can force the most capable child to be the one responsible to take care of the elderly parent. It hoovers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 327883, member: 1514"] I was in the sandwich generation for a large part of my life. Ok...not large but from the time my kids were mid teens upward. My mom had alzheimers. Even before that she was a problem. We always knew there was something wrong with her. I dont have any siblings. When my mom finally got to the stage that it became evident that she was...well...out of her mind, it all fell on me. I got a call one day and she was in her bank trying to withdraw money from her bank account but she couldnt tell them her name but she had a check book and there was a man with her that wasnt my oldest son who lived with her at the time, who the bank knew. They called Social Services, who in turn called me. I was told I had to come do something about her RIGHT THEN or I would be charged with negligence to an elder and parental abuse! How bout them apples? LOL. This woman who had abused me all my life and I was going to be charged with abusing her...ironic. I ended up having to bring her up to live with me and my family. My kids, my SO and I had to take care of her as long as we could until her illness just became so debilitating that it was more than we could do at home. Then she had to go into a nursing home. She died within a year. I think we gave her what we could. I ended up having to quit my job about a year earlier than I would have to had I not had to care for her. My health issues were hitting me hard and heavy back then but I think I may have been able to hang on maybe another year. Maybe. She forced me to have to quit right then. This is never an easy situation to be in. You really need to check out your state laws because if its like it is here, they can force the most capable child to be the one responsible to take care of the elderly parent. It hoovers. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
I do not like being a sandwich! Warning - pity party happening here
Top