OK.
This is M describing my demeanor sometimes. Now. This behavior on my part can be viewed as a stereotypically feminine stance, to show that one has renounced the power position, and is not a threat.
If I am looking at myself through new eyes, kind ones, can I not rethink this?
That is to say that I am not responsible for a predator's decision to prey. There is no need to turn myself into an alpha-female in order to stop predators.
Nor will it stop them. Witness, Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton. Hillary does not seem to have a persona much like my own, but that does not stop The Donald from going on the attack. Nor, does Donald's manliness stop Hillary from attacking him. (Moderators, this is not a political discussion. I am using examples that will be known by us all.)
What is your thinking about this?
Wow. Am I feeling better!