Hi and welcome, S&F
We all have been where you are at with your adult child.
And we all finally get fed up and want to get off the roller coaster ride eventually.
I think you are there, now.
So, is it time to give him notice that he must be out in a certain amount of time (maybe one month)?
He is a grown man, and has been one for a decade now. It is his life, no matter how he chooses to live it. It is not your responsibility to take care of him anymore, or save him from his choices. You must stop feeling guilty and you must allow him to live his own life and learn from his own mistakes and take the consequences. This is vitally important!
Please stop feeling guilty and stop taking responsibility for your son's choices! This is so important for BOTH of you!
Please stay with us. We are walking this journey together.
Apple
