This. This is so true. The whole entertainment society is advocating weed use, politics are de-dramatizing it, but they forget one thing : stoners don't mix with non-stoners. Like an old friend said "this is the ultimate lazy drug", it makes you think you're doing great things while sitting on your couch or bed and doing nothing. It makes you think you don't have to be there, part of a society, that you can just have fun.
Yes, he is suffering. He is having a hard time realizing he suffers... He wants to be independent, but he does not want to be accountable for anything. And he is now paying his bad habits at studying. He is starting to see "fun friends" succeeding and having a future while he struggles, he tries to study more but he said he definitely lacks basic skills. His mother is also a bit harsh on him sometimes. I had to say to her (not in front of him of course) : "but, listen to him : he basically knows nothing. He is clueless about so much things, he needs to get out, work, and solve basic life issues himself".
She was the opposite when teenager : quickly forced to independence, on her own, managed to get a nice work etc... So that makes her sad and sometimes mad. But on the other hand, not fixing enough limits, like you said, end up in disasters.
I even said to him : "look, guy, if what you want to do is organizing parties, or be a sport coach, or whatever road you want to take, your mother said she does not mind, you are lucky, but you need to do something and learn something, even if you fail first, you need to learn. Because no one will offer you the job of your dreams".
He literally has no plan. Not a single project, nothing. And in that I recognize weed.
You're right, love is one of the keys of all that. Sometimes it's difficult, with the stress of the everyday life.
