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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 432618" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p><strong>Alcohol: </strong> </p><p>Wherever it's extreme and potentially dangerous, I am so with you. However, if at these parties, the adults are drinking responsibly and/or you are there and can leave when it gets out of hand, then I would loosen up. I think that kids should and MUST see that drinking can be OK when done responsibly. It's not an all or nothing situation. My husband is an alcoholic. Son is old enough to remember and understand that dad drank to excess, and although mom (me) does drink, she does it responsibly. I don't get buzzed, I don't drive even after one unless 2 hours have passed, etc. in my opinion kids should get "tastes" of alcohol and "learn" responsible drinking in safe controlled environments, but the "teacher" should NEVER be an alcoholic. Unfortunately, even with my own personal philosophy, I probably will not be doing that with my own kids because laws these days on the subject are in my opinion very "Big Brother" Son, the Aspie, the rule follower, gets very upset if I even hint at allowing him a taste. He says he's fine with waiting until he is 21 then If he does want to drink, he will let me "teach" him.</p><p></p><p>I forget if you have any evaluations scheduled for your son yet. If not, get moving. In the meantime, start researching on where he might fit. ADD, ADHD, Autism spectrum, sensory integration issues etc. It's very easy to find symptom lists to see if he fits. This is only to get you a springboard of where to start understanding and therefore adjusting both his and your behavior. This will also help to explain your position on some things with your Dad, especially if he's with your kids often in the capacity of a caregiver. Grandparents should be able to spoil and indulge their grand kids, but that really needs to change if they become babysitters/caregivers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 432618, member: 11965"] [B]Alcohol: [/B] Wherever it's extreme and potentially dangerous, I am so with you. However, if at these parties, the adults are drinking responsibly and/or you are there and can leave when it gets out of hand, then I would loosen up. I think that kids should and MUST see that drinking can be OK when done responsibly. It's not an all or nothing situation. My husband is an alcoholic. Son is old enough to remember and understand that dad drank to excess, and although mom (me) does drink, she does it responsibly. I don't get buzzed, I don't drive even after one unless 2 hours have passed, etc. in my opinion kids should get "tastes" of alcohol and "learn" responsible drinking in safe controlled environments, but the "teacher" should NEVER be an alcoholic. Unfortunately, even with my own personal philosophy, I probably will not be doing that with my own kids because laws these days on the subject are in my opinion very "Big Brother" Son, the Aspie, the rule follower, gets very upset if I even hint at allowing him a taste. He says he's fine with waiting until he is 21 then If he does want to drink, he will let me "teach" him. I forget if you have any evaluations scheduled for your son yet. If not, get moving. In the meantime, start researching on where he might fit. ADD, ADHD, Autism spectrum, sensory integration issues etc. It's very easy to find symptom lists to see if he fits. This is only to get you a springboard of where to start understanding and therefore adjusting both his and your behavior. This will also help to explain your position on some things with your Dad, especially if he's with your kids often in the capacity of a caregiver. Grandparents should be able to spoil and indulge their grand kids, but that really needs to change if they become babysitters/caregivers. [/QUOTE]
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