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i don't know what has gotten into him....
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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 122105" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Just my 2 cents but his stepdad's attitude could certainly contaminate difficult child's attitude. These kids with mood disorders are INCREDIBLY sensitive to toxic environments and I think you'll see a lot of acting out if they are exposed to anything that makes them feel badly about themselves. Also, I believe they need very CLEAR and CONCRETE boundaries with very CLEAR and CONCRETE consequences for violations (just thinking about the kicking incident -- a very swift and decisive consequence that has a high cost for the difficult child would be in order for something like that -- the idea is that the cost for the chosen behavior is greater than the cost of not doing the behavior, so they avoid the higher cost behavior). </p><p> </p><p>In our house, when structure starts to weaken it's an invitation for chaos and a boatload of behavior issues. When husband is overly critical or yells at difficult child's for stupid stuff, they start fighting amongst themselves like a bunch of junkyard dogs.</p><p> </p><p>This sounds really preachy, and I'm sorry for that. I hope you can get a handle on this situation before someone really gets hurt. Your daughter deserves to feel safe at home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 122105, member: 3444"] Just my 2 cents but his stepdad's attitude could certainly contaminate difficult child's attitude. These kids with mood disorders are INCREDIBLY sensitive to toxic environments and I think you'll see a lot of acting out if they are exposed to anything that makes them feel badly about themselves. Also, I believe they need very CLEAR and CONCRETE boundaries with very CLEAR and CONCRETE consequences for violations (just thinking about the kicking incident -- a very swift and decisive consequence that has a high cost for the difficult child would be in order for something like that -- the idea is that the cost for the chosen behavior is greater than the cost of not doing the behavior, so they avoid the higher cost behavior). In our house, when structure starts to weaken it's an invitation for chaos and a boatload of behavior issues. When husband is overly critical or yells at difficult child's for stupid stuff, they start fighting amongst themselves like a bunch of junkyard dogs. This sounds really preachy, and I'm sorry for that. I hope you can get a handle on this situation before someone really gets hurt. Your daughter deserves to feel safe at home. [/QUOTE]
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