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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 494445"><p>I can hear the heartache in your post.... and it is heartbreaking to have a kid strung out on drugs. I am really glad you are going to an alanon meeting.. Do you know if it is a parents meeting? I have found alanon to be a huge huge help to me (as well as this message board). </p><p></p><p>I understand the obsessing over it.. I used to do that too.. now I do it less but when things are bad it is hard not to... however obessing over it doesn't help your son. And letting him come back in or giving them things because you are afraid they will have no place to sleep or they will end up in jail doesn't really help them either. Some just have to learn the hard way...and that means letting them get the hard consequences of their actions. I know it is awful to have a son in jail but it may be beter than strung out on drugs.</p><p></p><p>Right now you and your husband need to take care of each other and yourselves. There is not much you can do to help your sons unless they sincerely want help. I think we often as parents try to fix their problems but we really can't, they are adults and they need to find the answeres themselves.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and keep coming here for support.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 494445"] I can hear the heartache in your post.... and it is heartbreaking to have a kid strung out on drugs. I am really glad you are going to an alanon meeting.. Do you know if it is a parents meeting? I have found alanon to be a huge huge help to me (as well as this message board). I understand the obsessing over it.. I used to do that too.. now I do it less but when things are bad it is hard not to... however obessing over it doesn't help your son. And letting him come back in or giving them things because you are afraid they will have no place to sleep or they will end up in jail doesn't really help them either. Some just have to learn the hard way...and that means letting them get the hard consequences of their actions. I know it is awful to have a son in jail but it may be beter than strung out on drugs. Right now you and your husband need to take care of each other and yourselves. There is not much you can do to help your sons unless they sincerely want help. I think we often as parents try to fix their problems but we really can't, they are adults and they need to find the answeres themselves. Hugs and keep coming here for support. TL [/QUOTE]
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