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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 599147" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Mechdonna, I'm sorry that you have to deal with not only your son but the responses from your sister as well. Yes, I agree that often families are disrupted and torn apart by the behaviors of difficult children. MWM has given you good advice, if you are being judged and ignored by your sister, it is likely that staying home is your best option in this situation. The lure of a vacation may put you in a negative situation where you will feel obliged to justify your actions and defend your own behavior towards your son. You needn't do that with anyone, people outside the realm of our difficult child's do not know the reality of all of it. </p><p></p><p>It is unfortunate that your son hurt you and then your sister followed suit, but now it is up to you to make the right choice, and from what you've stated, going on this trip would not be the right choice. Difficult as it is at times, I have found it to be best to keep a distance between myself and people who are judgmental, critical and righteous, these are not folks who love you and have your back, they are usually folks who have a strong need to be right and will throw you overboard to stay right. </p><p></p><p>Going to a 12 step group, or therapy, or any form of support is a great idea and I hope you follow through on that, you will meet others who can empathize with you, who have compassion for you and who can really understand what this is like for you. It sounds like it would serve you best to take a step back and let the situation evolve without you, at some point in time your difficult child will reveal his true nature to your sister and she may at that point be able to see the truth and be in your corner. In the absence of that, I don't imagine being with her is a safe or comfortable or healthy place for you to be. You are not a loser, you are a wounded warrior mom and those who judge you and don't have the capacity for compassion are the real losers. Step away from all of them and go enjoy your life....................hugs.........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 599147, member: 13542"] Mechdonna, I'm sorry that you have to deal with not only your son but the responses from your sister as well. Yes, I agree that often families are disrupted and torn apart by the behaviors of difficult children. MWM has given you good advice, if you are being judged and ignored by your sister, it is likely that staying home is your best option in this situation. The lure of a vacation may put you in a negative situation where you will feel obliged to justify your actions and defend your own behavior towards your son. You needn't do that with anyone, people outside the realm of our difficult child's do not know the reality of all of it. It is unfortunate that your son hurt you and then your sister followed suit, but now it is up to you to make the right choice, and from what you've stated, going on this trip would not be the right choice. Difficult as it is at times, I have found it to be best to keep a distance between myself and people who are judgmental, critical and righteous, these are not folks who love you and have your back, they are usually folks who have a strong need to be right and will throw you overboard to stay right. Going to a 12 step group, or therapy, or any form of support is a great idea and I hope you follow through on that, you will meet others who can empathize with you, who have compassion for you and who can really understand what this is like for you. It sounds like it would serve you best to take a step back and let the situation evolve without you, at some point in time your difficult child will reveal his true nature to your sister and she may at that point be able to see the truth and be in your corner. In the absence of that, I don't imagine being with her is a safe or comfortable or healthy place for you to be. You are not a loser, you are a wounded warrior mom and those who judge you and don't have the capacity for compassion are the real losers. Step away from all of them and go enjoy your life....................hugs......... [/QUOTE]
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