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<blockquote data-quote="amelia d" data-source="post: 635371" data-attributes="member: 18177"><p>Kitten..I know where you are coming from..been there myself. That's why I'm cautioning you on being too optimistic about her getting a part time job. You are right that she may learn commitment and responsibility from this; hopefully, she will. But teenagers are pretty myopic about why they do what they do. Please keep your eyes focused ahead. From the behavior you have described, even the idea of a driver's license would scare me. It's not a right; it needs to be earned. I know saving for a car is way down the road, but now is when you have the opportunity to teach her about the consequences of her choices. Please don't take this as criticism. My own daughter is now 18, and problems that started at 15 and 16 were not handled well; and now we have very little influence over her. Given the opportunity, I would have been less accommodating to her (trying to be the understanding and reasonable parent..yeah, that didn't work), and more restrictive of her freedom. Be careful and be mindful that you are approving future patterns with every "yes" you give. This same child that can't remember to empty the dishwasher will be the first to remind you that "you promised...!" Good luck and keep at it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="amelia d, post: 635371, member: 18177"] Kitten..I know where you are coming from..been there myself. That's why I'm cautioning you on being too optimistic about her getting a part time job. You are right that she may learn commitment and responsibility from this; hopefully, she will. But teenagers are pretty myopic about why they do what they do. Please keep your eyes focused ahead. From the behavior you have described, even the idea of a driver's license would scare me. It's not a right; it needs to be earned. I know saving for a car is way down the road, but now is when you have the opportunity to teach her about the consequences of her choices. Please don't take this as criticism. My own daughter is now 18, and problems that started at 15 and 16 were not handled well; and now we have very little influence over her. Given the opportunity, I would have been less accommodating to her (trying to be the understanding and reasonable parent..yeah, that didn't work), and more restrictive of her freedom. Be careful and be mindful that you are approving future patterns with every "yes" you give. This same child that can't remember to empty the dishwasher will be the first to remind you that "you promised...!" Good luck and keep at it. [/QUOTE]
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