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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 115751" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It really sounds like you are an awesome but overworked mom. NOT a horrible mom. Your son is very challenging. So is your vision of yourself. It happens to most of us, that is why therapy helps.</p><p></p><p>Go for the full evaluation. See what they say.</p><p></p><p>I can honestly say that my sweet, loveable, always willing to hug mom can have days he just dissolves when he walks in the door. He goes off differently than your son, but he goes off.</p><p></p><p>I found that SCHOOL was a huge sensory trigger. What I do is provide the sensory things he seeks out, this helps him self-calm. Also, if he seems to be having a "meltdown morning" he stays home. School knows I will call him in sick, they know why, and it is in his 504 plan. As long as grades are not a problem, then the principal could care less.</p><p></p><p>This is our plan. It won't work for you. Your son needs an Occupational Therapy exam in addition to the psychiatrist (with the md) and the neuropsychologist exam. I have a feeling you will find he is working so hard to hold it together at school he just cannot cope when he gets home.</p><p></p><p>He KNOWS you love him, and you won't hurt him. This is WHY he shows you all the horrible behaviors. Don't change the love, adore and won't hurt him factors, find ways to change the other issues that are setting him off.</p><p></p><p>It is very hard to understand, but our kids are hardest and most awful to the people they know will always love them. They are nice to the people they think might leave. Stinks to be a parent in this equation, but at least you know he feels loved.</p><p></p><p>Get the evaluations. Ask the occupational therapist abour Sensory Integration issues. Keep coming back here. While we may not have a solution, we always have a hug!</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 115751, member: 1233"] It really sounds like you are an awesome but overworked mom. NOT a horrible mom. Your son is very challenging. So is your vision of yourself. It happens to most of us, that is why therapy helps. Go for the full evaluation. See what they say. I can honestly say that my sweet, loveable, always willing to hug mom can have days he just dissolves when he walks in the door. He goes off differently than your son, but he goes off. I found that SCHOOL was a huge sensory trigger. What I do is provide the sensory things he seeks out, this helps him self-calm. Also, if he seems to be having a "meltdown morning" he stays home. School knows I will call him in sick, they know why, and it is in his 504 plan. As long as grades are not a problem, then the principal could care less. This is our plan. It won't work for you. Your son needs an Occupational Therapy exam in addition to the psychiatrist (with the md) and the neuropsychologist exam. I have a feeling you will find he is working so hard to hold it together at school he just cannot cope when he gets home. He KNOWS you love him, and you won't hurt him. This is WHY he shows you all the horrible behaviors. Don't change the love, adore and won't hurt him factors, find ways to change the other issues that are setting him off. It is very hard to understand, but our kids are hardest and most awful to the people they know will always love them. They are nice to the people they think might leave. Stinks to be a parent in this equation, but at least you know he feels loved. Get the evaluations. Ask the occupational therapist abour Sensory Integration issues. Keep coming back here. While we may not have a solution, we always have a hug! Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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