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I feel no love for him - how can that be...
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 717482" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I'll say you can't anymore!!! I would have been done a loooooong time ago!!! </p><p></p><p>Why are you attempting to figure out when he is lying? Our difficult children are lying when their lips are moving. The burden to prove he is telling the truth should be on him, not you. As for who is to blame, he is an adult now. It is time for him to pull up his big boy britches and take the consequences of being a big boy.</p><p></p><p>Have you thought about making him move out? Not paying for anything for him? I mean not giving him a dime in support? He is 18 and legally an adult. He should be supporting himself. Tell him you don't want to f*** up his siblings so you need the money to support them. He can move out and support himself. </p><p></p><p>Given how he acts toward you, his siblings are likely afraid of him. It will probably take a few weeks for them to accept that it is real, but then you will see a change in their behavior. They will start to tell you things he did. If it is like what we went through, it will be upsetting. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry that he drunk texts you. He is not old enough to drink. What consequences does he get when he drinks? I am curious. I know my own mother would have called the cops and told them where I was if I had drunk texted her anything, much less anything nasty. She would NEVER have bailed me out or paid any fines for me either. In fact, if my fines were $100 to the state, my mother would then have charged me $100 to her for breaking the law. She would not have paid a penny of it. I could work around the house/yard for minimum wage, but it would be hard work with no paid breaks. If I didn't have the money to pay the fines on time, she would have either made me go to the judge without paying them or pawned my stuff to pay for them. Anything pawned would be mine, not anyone else's, and no one would help me earn the money to get it back.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like he is just always out to make you miserable and to blame you for everything even though he brings everyone down. Why one earth would you have warm fuzzy happy feelings about him if that is how he behaves?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 717482, member: 1233"] I'll say you can't anymore!!! I would have been done a loooooong time ago!!! Why are you attempting to figure out when he is lying? Our difficult children are lying when their lips are moving. The burden to prove he is telling the truth should be on him, not you. As for who is to blame, he is an adult now. It is time for him to pull up his big boy britches and take the consequences of being a big boy. Have you thought about making him move out? Not paying for anything for him? I mean not giving him a dime in support? He is 18 and legally an adult. He should be supporting himself. Tell him you don't want to f*** up his siblings so you need the money to support them. He can move out and support himself. Given how he acts toward you, his siblings are likely afraid of him. It will probably take a few weeks for them to accept that it is real, but then you will see a change in their behavior. They will start to tell you things he did. If it is like what we went through, it will be upsetting. I am sorry that he drunk texts you. He is not old enough to drink. What consequences does he get when he drinks? I am curious. I know my own mother would have called the cops and told them where I was if I had drunk texted her anything, much less anything nasty. She would NEVER have bailed me out or paid any fines for me either. In fact, if my fines were $100 to the state, my mother would then have charged me $100 to her for breaking the law. She would not have paid a penny of it. I could work around the house/yard for minimum wage, but it would be hard work with no paid breaks. If I didn't have the money to pay the fines on time, she would have either made me go to the judge without paying them or pawned my stuff to pay for them. Anything pawned would be mine, not anyone else's, and no one would help me earn the money to get it back. It sounds like he is just always out to make you miserable and to blame you for everything even though he brings everyone down. Why one earth would you have warm fuzzy happy feelings about him if that is how he behaves? [/QUOTE]
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