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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 248374"><p>SSDD - Same Sh-tuff, Different Day</p><p></p><p>Well, I have a differing opinion.</p><p></p><p>First of all if this is a chastising contest on who should act like what, I don't find "lots of people" on this board annoying. There are a few and I generally stay away from them. The vast majority are people that I may have nothing else in common with other than we are dealing with challenging children and a bond of sorts forms.</p><p></p><p>If someone asks for an honest opinion, they are going to get one. Her first question in her first post was "Am I thinking correctly?" I could lie or pooh pooh it and tip toe around it, but that's not me and, frankly, I can't stand that kind of behavior. If *I* ask a question, I want an honest answer. I don't want to have to go sifting for it.</p><p></p><p>She then asked for honest opinions. I gave it. Not based on a single thread, but based on all of the threads she has started. From her being angry at a 15 year old kid when her son was charged with something akin to "contributing to the delinquency of a minor", to her calling the kids parents and telling them she didn't blame them instead of apologizing for her son's behavior and to her treating her 25 year old adult son like he is 10 to her adult son's friends stealing his (at that time) 17 year old brother's game system that her 17 year old saved up to buy and really not expecting him to make restitution because he needs the money on his account at jail or he needs to buy drugs - whatever the reason was, I can't remember.</p><p></p><p>I didn't pretty it up with my responses. I didn't go into long explanations because it doesn't get read or it doesn't get through. History has shown that. Short and direct was the way to go. I didn't say anything online that I wouldn't have said in person. And I don't regret a word of it because it was honest. </p><p></p><p>If we didn't care or were so heartless and cruel, we wouldn't respond at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 248374"] SSDD - Same Sh-tuff, Different Day Well, I have a differing opinion. First of all if this is a chastising contest on who should act like what, I don't find "lots of people" on this board annoying. There are a few and I generally stay away from them. The vast majority are people that I may have nothing else in common with other than we are dealing with challenging children and a bond of sorts forms. If someone asks for an honest opinion, they are going to get one. Her first question in her first post was "Am I thinking correctly?" I could lie or pooh pooh it and tip toe around it, but that's not me and, frankly, I can't stand that kind of behavior. If *I* ask a question, I want an honest answer. I don't want to have to go sifting for it. She then asked for honest opinions. I gave it. Not based on a single thread, but based on all of the threads she has started. From her being angry at a 15 year old kid when her son was charged with something akin to "contributing to the delinquency of a minor", to her calling the kids parents and telling them she didn't blame them instead of apologizing for her son's behavior and to her treating her 25 year old adult son like he is 10 to her adult son's friends stealing his (at that time) 17 year old brother's game system that her 17 year old saved up to buy and really not expecting him to make restitution because he needs the money on his account at jail or he needs to buy drugs - whatever the reason was, I can't remember. I didn't pretty it up with my responses. I didn't go into long explanations because it doesn't get read or it doesn't get through. History has shown that. Short and direct was the way to go. I didn't say anything online that I wouldn't have said in person. And I don't regret a word of it because it was honest. If we didn't care or were so heartless and cruel, we wouldn't respond at all. [/QUOTE]
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