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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 751214" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>You didn't flake. This is a stress response. You have been traumatized. This is a bodily response. You are holding so much in you, that there is no place for more. You asked of yourself the impossible. To take in more. It's not possible. Think of a sponge that is saturated with water. Or a towel. Did you ever make a flood on your floor and try to mop it up with a towel. And the towel reaches the point where it will not hold one more drop? That is what happened to you.</p><p></p><p>I have been in these meetings. They are highly stressful. Even if you've been at the beach in the Bahamas for a year and come back happy and rested--these meetings are too much.</p><p></p><p>Have you been in the Bahamas lately? No.</p><p></p><p>There will be time for many do overs. But personally, I don't think now is the time.</p><p></p><p>Finally, why does B need a shorter day? He needs a longer day! You need respite and school is your respite. The school district needs to come up with aides to be with him morning and afternoon. That is the ONLY thing I think I would fight for now, more. Tell school that he needs the socialization and that it is not workable that he start late and leave early. They are obligated to educate him during the regular school day. If they can't or won't he needs a special placement at a non-public school that they pay for, and they transport him there. I can't believe that Canada is that different than here, in these matters.</p><p></p><p>The absolute priority now is YOU. Your healing. First all this pressure cooker stress has to be minimized, however possible. And second, there needs to be time for you to recuperate. I suggest that you start a thread every single week with the intention to heal, and ask all of us to support you. Now that I think about it, maybe there needs to be a separate forum for the rest of us to be supported to heal. Let's think of a name. What about Healing Ourselves? But I think we can do better.</p><p></p><p>And each of us, all of us, as part of our time here, can dedicate our time not just to coping but to healing.</p><p></p><p>You did great! Really. You stayed in the game. Let any one of those other people try to take on what you've been handling all of this time. You are a hero. But now it's time to rest. I am so glad you had the support and assistance of the advocate. He sounds kind!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 751214, member: 18958"] You didn't flake. This is a stress response. You have been traumatized. This is a bodily response. You are holding so much in you, that there is no place for more. You asked of yourself the impossible. To take in more. It's not possible. Think of a sponge that is saturated with water. Or a towel. Did you ever make a flood on your floor and try to mop it up with a towel. And the towel reaches the point where it will not hold one more drop? That is what happened to you. I have been in these meetings. They are highly stressful. Even if you've been at the beach in the Bahamas for a year and come back happy and rested--these meetings are too much. Have you been in the Bahamas lately? No. There will be time for many do overs. But personally, I don't think now is the time. Finally, why does B need a shorter day? He needs a longer day! You need respite and school is your respite. The school district needs to come up with aides to be with him morning and afternoon. That is the ONLY thing I think I would fight for now, more. Tell school that he needs the socialization and that it is not workable that he start late and leave early. They are obligated to educate him during the regular school day. If they can't or won't he needs a special placement at a non-public school that they pay for, and they transport him there. I can't believe that Canada is that different than here, in these matters. The absolute priority now is YOU. Your healing. First all this pressure cooker stress has to be minimized, however possible. And second, there needs to be time for you to recuperate. I suggest that you start a thread every single week with the intention to heal, and ask all of us to support you. Now that I think about it, maybe there needs to be a separate forum for the rest of us to be supported to heal. Let's think of a name. What about Healing Ourselves? But I think we can do better. And each of us, all of us, as part of our time here, can dedicate our time not just to coping but to healing. You did great! Really. You stayed in the game. Let any one of those other people try to take on what you've been handling all of this time. You are a hero. But now it's time to rest. I am so glad you had the support and assistance of the advocate. He sounds kind! [/QUOTE]
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