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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 214978" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Very hard situation.</p><p>I would say, however, that it is likely that the child is not going to turn around just because of a change in discipline. This kid needs a complete evaluation. in my opinion ADHD doesn't explain all of his behavior--with the history of substance abuse on the mother's side he more likely has some sort of mood disorder, which can make kids extremely defiant, angry, and immune to discipline. Straterra would make a child with a mood disorder even worse, not better. in my opinion the first thing your boyfriend has to do is to get him a neuropsychologist evaluation so that he can get his son better treatment. If he wont' do this, then in my opinion again it's pretty hopeless. There ARE kids you can't discipline because they don't care and won't listsen--and the majority of those kids are that way due to some psychiatric or neurological disorder. Kids don't WANT to misbehave. Some CAN'T behave. </p><p>Is this child seeing a Psychiatrist (with the MD?) Has he ever had a neuropsychologist evaluation? When was the last time anyone tested him? Like with physical disorders, psychiatric and neuroloigal disorder need updated evaluations as often the early diagnoses are wrong. You see more as the child ages.</p><p></p><p>If boyfriend won't have an evaluation for his son or consider changing his professionals who are treating him or digging deeper to see the big picture, then you have two choices: 1/Stay, knowing that nothing will likely change and could get worse 2/Leave because you did the best you could, but boyfriend isn't--and this isn't your child. You can only help so much. If you have other kids, this one will probably take up all your time unless he is stablized and the status quo just isn't doing the job. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 214978, member: 1550"] Very hard situation. I would say, however, that it is likely that the child is not going to turn around just because of a change in discipline. This kid needs a complete evaluation. in my opinion ADHD doesn't explain all of his behavior--with the history of substance abuse on the mother's side he more likely has some sort of mood disorder, which can make kids extremely defiant, angry, and immune to discipline. Straterra would make a child with a mood disorder even worse, not better. in my opinion the first thing your boyfriend has to do is to get him a neuropsychologist evaluation so that he can get his son better treatment. If he wont' do this, then in my opinion again it's pretty hopeless. There ARE kids you can't discipline because they don't care and won't listsen--and the majority of those kids are that way due to some psychiatric or neurological disorder. Kids don't WANT to misbehave. Some CAN'T behave. Is this child seeing a Psychiatrist (with the MD?) Has he ever had a neuropsychologist evaluation? When was the last time anyone tested him? Like with physical disorders, psychiatric and neuroloigal disorder need updated evaluations as often the early diagnoses are wrong. You see more as the child ages. If boyfriend won't have an evaluation for his son or consider changing his professionals who are treating him or digging deeper to see the big picture, then you have two choices: 1/Stay, knowing that nothing will likely change and could get worse 2/Leave because you did the best you could, but boyfriend isn't--and this isn't your child. You can only help so much. If you have other kids, this one will probably take up all your time unless he is stablized and the status quo just isn't doing the job. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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