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<blockquote data-quote="janebrain" data-source="post: 215003" data-attributes="member: 3208"><p>Hi,</p><p>just chiming in to say I agree with the great advice you've been given by so many here and to add my support. I, for one, do not think you should feel guilty if you do decide it is too much and break off the relationship. Your boyfriend is going to have to make major changes in his parenting if he is going to have a chance of success with his son. Seems to be he is not willing to do this. You cannot be the primary disciplinarian--you are not the bio parent. </p><p></p><p>I am the bio parent of my difficult child and my husband is the stepdad. He really had to take a backseat and let me be the one to do the disciplining. He had to take it very slow with my kids and be more of a support to me than anything. It isn't right or fair for you to have to be the "bad guy" with someone else's child, that is their dad's role.</p><p></p><p>Please do put any plans on hold and again if you decide this is not something you can take on then leave with a clear conscience. You have done everything you can, you have been amazing!</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="janebrain, post: 215003, member: 3208"] Hi, just chiming in to say I agree with the great advice you've been given by so many here and to add my support. I, for one, do not think you should feel guilty if you do decide it is too much and break off the relationship. Your boyfriend is going to have to make major changes in his parenting if he is going to have a chance of success with his son. Seems to be he is not willing to do this. You cannot be the primary disciplinarian--you are not the bio parent. I am the bio parent of my difficult child and my husband is the stepdad. He really had to take a backseat and let me be the one to do the disciplining. He had to take it very slow with my kids and be more of a support to me than anything. It isn't right or fair for you to have to be the "bad guy" with someone else's child, that is their dad's role. Please do put any plans on hold and again if you decide this is not something you can take on then leave with a clear conscience. You have done everything you can, you have been amazing! Hugs, Jane [/QUOTE]
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