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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 661966" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>It sounds like they continued his SSI from when he was a child into adulthood then? Certainly far more common than getting it right away when applying for the first time as an adult. </p><p> </p><p>I don't know what to tell you...I really don't and I'm sorry about that. I'm sure his diagnoses makes him vulnerable to some extent, but he's not so disabled as to not be able to function. His thinking is odd, but not, well, crazy. There are people who don't even have his issues who are perfectly fine couch surfing and being homeless. </p><p> </p><p>I think one thing to think on, very hard, is that becoming the payee on his SSI ties you to him more firmly than just being his mother. You'll become the person who pays his rent, pays his electric, pays his groceries. He may have suggested it originally, but he may really resent it now. Once you are on there, then what? Right now he's homeless, right? You need to read up on what becoming a payee entails. I really don't know. (You know it occurs to me that [USER=1550]@SomewhereOutThere[/USER] may be of help on this.) Say you find a place for him to live...and he refuses. Then what? Can you say, "No. I'm not paying for a hotel/food/clothing?" </p><p> </p><p>And there is the question of whether you can TAKE being his guardian/payee. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Doesn't sound like having to deal with him day to day is going to be healthy for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 661966, member: 17309"] It sounds like they continued his SSI from when he was a child into adulthood then? Certainly far more common than getting it right away when applying for the first time as an adult. I don't know what to tell you...I really don't and I'm sorry about that. I'm sure his diagnoses makes him vulnerable to some extent, but he's not so disabled as to not be able to function. His thinking is odd, but not, well, crazy. There are people who don't even have his issues who are perfectly fine couch surfing and being homeless. I think one thing to think on, very hard, is that becoming the payee on his SSI ties you to him more firmly than just being his mother. You'll become the person who pays his rent, pays his electric, pays his groceries. He may have suggested it originally, but he may really resent it now. Once you are on there, then what? Right now he's homeless, right? You need to read up on what becoming a payee entails. I really don't know. (You know it occurs to me that [USER=1550]@SomewhereOutThere[/USER] may be of help on this.) Say you find a place for him to live...and he refuses. Then what? Can you say, "No. I'm not paying for a hotel/food/clothing?" And there is the question of whether you can TAKE being his guardian/payee. Doesn't sound like having to deal with him day to day is going to be healthy for you. [/QUOTE]
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