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<blockquote data-quote="roxy" data-source="post: 661969" data-attributes="member: 8571"><p>I don't post here much any more, as my Difficult Child is now less difficult. However, I have lots of hard-won experience on the topic of becoming a payee for SS. When I requested that I be made payee for my daughter because she was turning over her entire check to the heroin user she fancied was her boyfriend, they refused. They actually told me at the local SS office as I wept that she was an adult and if she wanted her ss money to go for buying heroin, it was none of my business. That to change it, I would to get the form they provided to me signed my her doctor with an explanation from him about why she could not manage her own money. When I requested that her neurologist sign the form thru his office staff, he dodged me for weeks, while she racked up arrests for shoplifting things she could hock so she could turn over more money to him. I figured as soon as the ss money was gone, he'd be out of there. This io did not move her doctor, who told me she was an adult and he would not give me power over her money just because i wanted it. I finally went to my own physician, who is a woman and had treated my daughter a time or two, and tearfully poured out my story to her. She signed the paper. The SS office almost seemed put out that I had managed to wrest away the drug addict's gravy train. And I had been correct, the instant he discovered the check no longer had her name on it, he was out of there. I am still payee after 6 years, and it is working ok. </p><p></p><p>You also need to remember that just because you have guardianship, there is still the issue of making them do things against their will. It is not easy when they resist. Seems to me all you get is responsibility for them, with very little leverage if they object.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="roxy, post: 661969, member: 8571"] I don't post here much any more, as my Difficult Child is now less difficult. However, I have lots of hard-won experience on the topic of becoming a payee for SS. When I requested that I be made payee for my daughter because she was turning over her entire check to the heroin user she fancied was her boyfriend, they refused. They actually told me at the local SS office as I wept that she was an adult and if she wanted her ss money to go for buying heroin, it was none of my business. That to change it, I would to get the form they provided to me signed my her doctor with an explanation from him about why she could not manage her own money. When I requested that her neurologist sign the form thru his office staff, he dodged me for weeks, while she racked up arrests for shoplifting things she could hock so she could turn over more money to him. I figured as soon as the ss money was gone, he'd be out of there. This io did not move her doctor, who told me she was an adult and he would not give me power over her money just because i wanted it. I finally went to my own physician, who is a woman and had treated my daughter a time or two, and tearfully poured out my story to her. She signed the paper. The SS office almost seemed put out that I had managed to wrest away the drug addict's gravy train. And I had been correct, the instant he discovered the check no longer had her name on it, he was out of there. I am still payee after 6 years, and it is working ok. You also need to remember that just because you have guardianship, there is still the issue of making them do things against their will. It is not easy when they resist. Seems to me all you get is responsibility for them, with very little leverage if they object. [/QUOTE]
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