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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 686292" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>And this is about all you can do. Or SHOULD do, for that matter. I am not a parent, and I don't mean to criticize parenting, I am just hoping to give a better view into their minds. I was just going to say that you will be better off once you start accepting the reality that NOTHING you can possibly do will do the work for them. It may be the natural parental instict to at least try, but it doesn't do them any good. And clearly doesn't do you any good. Since so many of us need to have a date with the rock at the bottom of the pit, much of what you do for them only slows the fall. The sooner they hit it, the sooner they will be willing to do the work required to live a sober, happy life. You cannot do the work for them, as much as you might like to. Even if you could, should you? It may make things easier in the immediate future, but it will take it's toll somewhere down the road. I can't truly comprehend your feelings on a deep enough level, same way it is difficult for you to do the same with me, and your sons. I can only tell you what I believed to be helpful in my own case, and the things that were detrimental. No two addicts are identical, and no two parents are identical. I am just trying to share my own personal experiences, and I sincerely apologize if I have offended you, or anybody else here by presuming too much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 686292, member: 20267"] And this is about all you can do. Or SHOULD do, for that matter. I am not a parent, and I don't mean to criticize parenting, I am just hoping to give a better view into their minds. I was just going to say that you will be better off once you start accepting the reality that NOTHING you can possibly do will do the work for them. It may be the natural parental instict to at least try, but it doesn't do them any good. And clearly doesn't do you any good. Since so many of us need to have a date with the rock at the bottom of the pit, much of what you do for them only slows the fall. The sooner they hit it, the sooner they will be willing to do the work required to live a sober, happy life. You cannot do the work for them, as much as you might like to. Even if you could, should you? It may make things easier in the immediate future, but it will take it's toll somewhere down the road. I can't truly comprehend your feelings on a deep enough level, same way it is difficult for you to do the same with me, and your sons. I can only tell you what I believed to be helpful in my own case, and the things that were detrimental. No two addicts are identical, and no two parents are identical. I am just trying to share my own personal experiences, and I sincerely apologize if I have offended you, or anybody else here by presuming too much. [/QUOTE]
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