Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
I give up....
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Karenvm" data-source="post: 686768" data-attributes="member: 15766"><p>Colleen, this is me right now as well. My oldest (turning 21 very soon) is in college and we pay for it, also a brilliant and gifted kid who just can't seem to stay on the right track. I thought that if he could just go to college, get a degree, at least he will have options in his life. But that was MY doing. I am the one who pushed him to get there (at the very last possible second), and although he is "getting by", I feel a spiral coming, and it's horrible. </p><p>Because of the way he acted when home on spring break recently (alcohol involved, yet again), we have told him he cannot live here this summer. And "this summer" is coming next week, when the semester ends, and I know he has made no plans, and this is going to become ugly. </p><p></p><p>My middle son (who has NEVER had any issues with anything at all, and is just a wonderful person all around) had planned to enter the military after graduation in June, but just found out he is disqualified because of a medical issue (we are trying to get a waiver), and now I am finding out that he may not even graduate because his grades are so bad (he had planned to go into the military for two years, never wanted college, and in this last year, did hardly any work at all, though he too, is extremely smart). I sat in a meeting last week with the principle and almost cried. </p><p></p><p>I too think, "what did I do wrong"? I have a Masters Degree, and a very successful career and job that I LOVE. My kids see that, they know that. So how could they end up like this? I know I have to realize that I can't MAKE them something that they are not, but I am really grieving right now, because both seem to be in a tough position at the same time (though the second one I know will be successful in life, and he probably WILL graduate, but the dream of him becoming a Marine- his dream, that I had accepted, supported, and began to look forward to seeing, is falling apart). </p><p></p><p>You are not alone, Colleen, and I think it is so much easier for me, an "outsider" to see that you should not be blaming yourselves, even when I am doing the same exact thing in my very similar situation. Crazy, I know. </p><p></p><p>I hope that maybe we can help each other through all of this. The support and "advice" from members here is so helpful to me!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Karenvm, post: 686768, member: 15766"] Colleen, this is me right now as well. My oldest (turning 21 very soon) is in college and we pay for it, also a brilliant and gifted kid who just can't seem to stay on the right track. I thought that if he could just go to college, get a degree, at least he will have options in his life. But that was MY doing. I am the one who pushed him to get there (at the very last possible second), and although he is "getting by", I feel a spiral coming, and it's horrible. Because of the way he acted when home on spring break recently (alcohol involved, yet again), we have told him he cannot live here this summer. And "this summer" is coming next week, when the semester ends, and I know he has made no plans, and this is going to become ugly. My middle son (who has NEVER had any issues with anything at all, and is just a wonderful person all around) had planned to enter the military after graduation in June, but just found out he is disqualified because of a medical issue (we are trying to get a waiver), and now I am finding out that he may not even graduate because his grades are so bad (he had planned to go into the military for two years, never wanted college, and in this last year, did hardly any work at all, though he too, is extremely smart). I sat in a meeting last week with the principle and almost cried. I too think, "what did I do wrong"? I have a Masters Degree, and a very successful career and job that I LOVE. My kids see that, they know that. So how could they end up like this? I know I have to realize that I can't MAKE them something that they are not, but I am really grieving right now, because both seem to be in a tough position at the same time (though the second one I know will be successful in life, and he probably WILL graduate, but the dream of him becoming a Marine- his dream, that I had accepted, supported, and began to look forward to seeing, is falling apart). You are not alone, Colleen, and I think it is so much easier for me, an "outsider" to see that you should not be blaming yourselves, even when I am doing the same exact thing in my very similar situation. Crazy, I know. I hope that maybe we can help each other through all of this. The support and "advice" from members here is so helpful to me! [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
I give up....
Top