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<blockquote data-quote="ColleenB" data-source="post: 686770" data-attributes="member: 19887"><p>I think having BOTH boys struggling right now makes me really feel like a failure! I know in my head that I can't do anything, but it's my heart that cries and feels so terrible. I constantly think " what could I have done differently? Where did it all go awry?" </p><p></p><p>I know the "what if" game only makes me sad, and has no use at all. </p><p></p><p>I just found out I was accepted to a second Masters Degree, and I wasn't even happy about it.... Why can I do this while working full time, but my kids can't even do part time univ? It's baffling.... And oh so depressing! </p><p></p><p>It's not like I ignored my boys, I was a stay at home mom until they were both in school, then went back and got my degrees in Education, and Counselling. I always wanted them to know they were loved, and spent lots of time with them. Their Dad coaches them for years and spent every weekend taking them to their events. </p><p></p><p>I don't know what else we could have done. In that way I know we did our best. But it feels so hard to accept that we can't just fix it and make it all better for them. </p><p></p><p>On a good note... They are both kind and loving boys. They visit their grandparents, and care about family. They are rarely rude to us.... The only time older son was mean was when he was heavily using. He owns his actions and the consequences. He is just sad about it. Which makes me sad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ColleenB, post: 686770, member: 19887"] I think having BOTH boys struggling right now makes me really feel like a failure! I know in my head that I can't do anything, but it's my heart that cries and feels so terrible. I constantly think " what could I have done differently? Where did it all go awry?" I know the "what if" game only makes me sad, and has no use at all. I just found out I was accepted to a second Masters Degree, and I wasn't even happy about it.... Why can I do this while working full time, but my kids can't even do part time univ? It's baffling.... And oh so depressing! It's not like I ignored my boys, I was a stay at home mom until they were both in school, then went back and got my degrees in Education, and Counselling. I always wanted them to know they were loved, and spent lots of time with them. Their Dad coaches them for years and spent every weekend taking them to their events. I don't know what else we could have done. In that way I know we did our best. But it feels so hard to accept that we can't just fix it and make it all better for them. On a good note... They are both kind and loving boys. They visit their grandparents, and care about family. They are rarely rude to us.... The only time older son was mean was when he was heavily using. He owns his actions and the consequences. He is just sad about it. Which makes me sad. [/QUOTE]
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