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I had a fight with husband over difficult child: Insights and opinions are welcome
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 556614" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Sending lots of juju difficult child's way for sure. Lots of pressure for one so young. Is the move something where he can earn his way back up ? Is that a pretty common response to a situation like this?</p><p>It does sound like husband has issues to work through but I have to back you up on drawing a line. I agree that adults should be consistent and a team but not in cases of abuse and while this may not meet that definition it came close. </p><p>Since it was such a public error would anyone have given husband a hard time? </p><p>In your first post I thought about how when there is any crisis in my life I tend to do a fair job and make ok decisions but when things cool off thats when I fall apart and for example my son might really do a terrible job unloading the dishwasher with no sorting the silverware at all (yeah ...huge life altering mistake, right ) that is when I get super frustrated and it is out of proportion to the situation. </p><p>Not sure that makes sense ..esp since your issues are certainly much bigger but it seems husband stood up and really committed to being difficult child's dad, stepped up during crisis times and now on an issue that has not much to do with the deep family issues or.his parenting, he cut loose. Of course the truth is probably that there were a number of issues and he made a bad call just like difficult child did! His was personal though and he has to do better in order to grow as a dad. We all have that job responsibility in parenting I suppose. You did the right thing stopping the phone call and trying to reassure your son.</p><p>I hope time will help and you will be able to talk this through. </p><p>Hugs to you mommy, it is a heart work out for sure!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 556614, member: 12886"] Sending lots of juju difficult child's way for sure. Lots of pressure for one so young. Is the move something where he can earn his way back up ? Is that a pretty common response to a situation like this? It does sound like husband has issues to work through but I have to back you up on drawing a line. I agree that adults should be consistent and a team but not in cases of abuse and while this may not meet that definition it came close. Since it was such a public error would anyone have given husband a hard time? In your first post I thought about how when there is any crisis in my life I tend to do a fair job and make ok decisions but when things cool off thats when I fall apart and for example my son might really do a terrible job unloading the dishwasher with no sorting the silverware at all (yeah ...huge life altering mistake, right ) that is when I get super frustrated and it is out of proportion to the situation. Not sure that makes sense ..esp since your issues are certainly much bigger but it seems husband stood up and really committed to being difficult child's dad, stepped up during crisis times and now on an issue that has not much to do with the deep family issues or.his parenting, he cut loose. Of course the truth is probably that there were a number of issues and he made a bad call just like difficult child did! His was personal though and he has to do better in order to grow as a dad. We all have that job responsibility in parenting I suppose. You did the right thing stopping the phone call and trying to reassure your son. I hope time will help and you will be able to talk this through. Hugs to you mommy, it is a heart work out for sure! [/QUOTE]
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