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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 688664" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Honey, my comment was kind of typing - thinking out loud. We need to know when he will move out. Yes, we said he'd move when the place was ready...but what if it isn't ready until July? We need to light a fire under both him and them! I guess what I am really thinking is how to approach it. Not just tell him, "You didn't call so we did and it's ready so get out." More, "We all need to know what's going on...so I'm going to send a text to Sophie and if the apartment is open, then you need to be prepared to be out in ___ weeks."</p><p></p><p>You're in pain right now, I know. And at the best of times you two have irritated each other even when he was just doing kid stuff <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> so I know this is difficult. What we do ... I don't know. Maybe we should do nothing until you are no longer in pain, so you aren't cranky and easily upset to start with.</p><p></p><p>But really, other than being his usual lazy pain in the arse, he's not doing anything "wrong". He's not stealing. He's not breaking things or screaming at us. He isn't job hunting to our satisfaction, but he <u>is</u> doing something.</p><p></p><p>It would be different if Sophie had called us...but she hasn't. Maybe the apartment still isn't ready? Maybe something has happened and they won't rent to him after all? (In which case they'll owe him money!) Maybe she's called him and he told her he wasn't going to take the apartment? Maybe, maybe, maybe...we don't KNOW and we need to know! We at least need a time frame here!</p><p></p><p>But what I don't want is to just say, "We called, get out." Because that's what it will turn into if we don't frame this correctly. Right now, he can't pay the $400 himself. You and I both know this. He's banking on J - who already has a 4 mile bike ride to work and will add a good 2-3 miles if he moves. With our kid's luck, he'll bail.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 688664, member: 17309"] Honey, my comment was kind of typing - thinking out loud. We need to know when he will move out. Yes, we said he'd move when the place was ready...but what if it isn't ready until July? We need to light a fire under both him and them! I guess what I am really thinking is how to approach it. Not just tell him, "You didn't call so we did and it's ready so get out." More, "We all need to know what's going on...so I'm going to send a text to Sophie and if the apartment is open, then you need to be prepared to be out in ___ weeks." You're in pain right now, I know. And at the best of times you two have irritated each other even when he was just doing kid stuff :( so I know this is difficult. What we do ... I don't know. Maybe we should do nothing until you are no longer in pain, so you aren't cranky and easily upset to start with. But really, other than being his usual lazy pain in the arse, he's not doing anything "wrong". He's not stealing. He's not breaking things or screaming at us. He isn't job hunting to our satisfaction, but he [U]is[/U] doing something. It would be different if Sophie had called us...but she hasn't. Maybe the apartment still isn't ready? Maybe something has happened and they won't rent to him after all? (In which case they'll owe him money!) Maybe she's called him and he told her he wasn't going to take the apartment? Maybe, maybe, maybe...we don't KNOW and we need to know! We at least need a time frame here! But what I don't want is to just say, "We called, get out." Because that's what it will turn into if we don't frame this correctly. Right now, he can't pay the $400 himself. You and I both know this. He's banking on J - who already has a 4 mile bike ride to work and will add a good 2-3 miles if he moves. With our kid's luck, he'll bail. [/QUOTE]
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