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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 570626" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Lol, I dont disagree with what.mwm.said at all! Mwm is absolutely correct that if these things have happened to a child ( I didn't see about the disruptive early childhood years) then this is likely a no win situation and very risky for you and the other kids.</p><p></p><p>However, though maybe not this case, sexual issues including pretty adult acts, compulsions, and exploring abound in many developmentally disordered kids. Even without prior abuse. Anyone who has been around severely impaired kids has seen that they figure out what feels good and just go for it. It can be a lifetime struggle and tjere are millions of behavior programs written including lots of Occupational Therapist (OT) programs, sigh. Many parents can tell you exactly when and how it started. I am in groups with higher functioning kids who are very talented at breaking parental locks on tv and computers and get into porn. Just happened to my friend recently and her son with a genetic issues similar to Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) is obsessed and now in adolesence is looking for any outlet. After assessment and investigation and follow-up my cousin's have had no other issues, are now totally embarrassed and no other incidents have happened. There absolutely are many reasons kids act out sexually and it's super complicated sometimes. And as to the question as why would they do it if not done to them? Because it feels good and they don't have the ability to predict consequences. Put with poor or no impulse control or inability to see another person's perspective? In the mental health field you see this stuff for different reasons but its not always black and white and it leaves parents with kids who have developmental disorders ill informed and without much support because no one writes much about it or openly talks about it. Again, now that I put past posts with this one....doesn't seem the case here.</p><p></p><p>So, if this is the kiddo with FASD,Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and all the other issues AND (what i missed) had that chaotic early birth to two/three upbringing ???? Plus has tried to kill kids? That is an easier call. (Just opinions here of course) Really though no.matter the cause, you have danger and have to act. But in this case (chance that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is part of it) the prognosis is slow improvement if any at all and the issues can accelerate as he gets older. You may have no idea how awful things really have been for your other kids. </p><p></p><p>I also agree it does not mean abusive methods can be used to treat him like isolation at all times because it's not humane and it will backfire on you because they can worry for the other kids. Your husband needs a big wake-up call!</p><p></p><p>You are being very brave and I'm sorry you have to go thru this!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 570626, member: 12886"] Lol, I dont disagree with what.mwm.said at all! Mwm is absolutely correct that if these things have happened to a child ( I didn't see about the disruptive early childhood years) then this is likely a no win situation and very risky for you and the other kids. However, though maybe not this case, sexual issues including pretty adult acts, compulsions, and exploring abound in many developmentally disordered kids. Even without prior abuse. Anyone who has been around severely impaired kids has seen that they figure out what feels good and just go for it. It can be a lifetime struggle and tjere are millions of behavior programs written including lots of Occupational Therapist (OT) programs, sigh. Many parents can tell you exactly when and how it started. I am in groups with higher functioning kids who are very talented at breaking parental locks on tv and computers and get into porn. Just happened to my friend recently and her son with a genetic issues similar to Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) is obsessed and now in adolesence is looking for any outlet. After assessment and investigation and follow-up my cousin's have had no other issues, are now totally embarrassed and no other incidents have happened. There absolutely are many reasons kids act out sexually and it's super complicated sometimes. And as to the question as why would they do it if not done to them? Because it feels good and they don't have the ability to predict consequences. Put with poor or no impulse control or inability to see another person's perspective? In the mental health field you see this stuff for different reasons but its not always black and white and it leaves parents with kids who have developmental disorders ill informed and without much support because no one writes much about it or openly talks about it. Again, now that I put past posts with this one....doesn't seem the case here. So, if this is the kiddo with FASD,Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and all the other issues AND (what i missed) had that chaotic early birth to two/three upbringing ???? Plus has tried to kill kids? That is an easier call. (Just opinions here of course) Really though no.matter the cause, you have danger and have to act. But in this case (chance that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is part of it) the prognosis is slow improvement if any at all and the issues can accelerate as he gets older. You may have no idea how awful things really have been for your other kids. I also agree it does not mean abusive methods can be used to treat him like isolation at all times because it's not humane and it will backfire on you because they can worry for the other kids. Your husband needs a big wake-up call! You are being very brave and I'm sorry you have to go thru this! [/QUOTE]
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