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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 631241" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>Lil,</p><p></p><p>Your posts remind me of husband and my 33gfg. When he was 17-19, we would set boundaries (because we knew he was not being fair), then waffle out of guilt. He blamed us for all his circumstances... and we would give in here and there. We thought it small stuff, now not so sure. When he finally moved out, our lives suddenly became golden.</p><p></p><p>Fast forward....15 years later. He has not matured, still blaming us - last we heard -- no contact in 6 mos.</p><p></p><p>He has done jail/prison time seven years ago (our fault).</p><p></p><p>I do not know how it may turn out for your son, but hope for the best. Just, please, please be wary of enabling a kid who does not choose to make good choices/build a life for himself/expects his parents to fix things.</p><p></p><p>I would not wish on anybody how it went for us. And, i must add, that we have two other adult kids who have never pulled any of the difficult child stuff. They have just plowed on, never blaming, never expecting....just moving forward, doing what needs to be done.</p><p></p><p>Please, have no guilt. It holds all of you back.</p><p></p><p>Hugs. Keep posting. There is progress. Wish husband and I had made as much progress decades ago. It can get worse if you do not stay on track.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 631241, member: 17635"] Lil, Your posts remind me of husband and my 33gfg. When he was 17-19, we would set boundaries (because we knew he was not being fair), then waffle out of guilt. He blamed us for all his circumstances... and we would give in here and there. We thought it small stuff, now not so sure. When he finally moved out, our lives suddenly became golden. Fast forward....15 years later. He has not matured, still blaming us - last we heard -- no contact in 6 mos. He has done jail/prison time seven years ago (our fault). I do not know how it may turn out for your son, but hope for the best. Just, please, please be wary of enabling a kid who does not choose to make good choices/build a life for himself/expects his parents to fix things. I would not wish on anybody how it went for us. And, i must add, that we have two other adult kids who have never pulled any of the difficult child stuff. They have just plowed on, never blaming, never expecting....just moving forward, doing what needs to be done. Please, have no guilt. It holds all of you back. Hugs. Keep posting. There is progress. Wish husband and I had made as much progress decades ago. It can get worse if you do not stay on track. [/QUOTE]
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