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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 92615" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>Karen, if she was 11 or 12, I would be all for just giving out enough information that would be age appropriate. I was about 11 when my parents divorced - I was pretty much clueless about the why's and wherefores - it was just one day my father was home, and the next day he wasn't - there was no sign of him -it wasn't discussed in any fashion, although I heard dribs and drabs of hushed conversations of what went down and was left to piece the story myself. But at 17, I think I would tell her the reason why the separation happened without the gory details.</p><p></p><p>If it were me, it would bug the cr@p out of me that this is just the X's manilipulating the situation of "Poor me, this is what your mother wanted" and now your daughter is being sucked in and thinks this who separation is all about you. He is trying his best to make you look like the bad guy with the friends and in laws, and now he is working the kids. What a horses rear end.</p><p></p><p>There are a few things I have taken the fall for when it came to the boys dad - fortunately they have gotten old enough to figure out how their dad ticks. But with something like this, I don't think I would be able to just sit there being a martyr to avoid causing any ripples in the pond, and X comming out smelling like a rose. Sometimes honesty kindly given is the better way. I remember being thrown for a loop when the real reason my father no longer lived at home (another major case of infidelity).</p><p></p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 92615, member: 47"] Karen, if she was 11 or 12, I would be all for just giving out enough information that would be age appropriate. I was about 11 when my parents divorced - I was pretty much clueless about the why's and wherefores - it was just one day my father was home, and the next day he wasn't - there was no sign of him -it wasn't discussed in any fashion, although I heard dribs and drabs of hushed conversations of what went down and was left to piece the story myself. But at 17, I think I would tell her the reason why the separation happened without the gory details. If it were me, it would bug the cr@p out of me that this is just the X's manilipulating the situation of "Poor me, this is what your mother wanted" and now your daughter is being sucked in and thinks this who separation is all about you. He is trying his best to make you look like the bad guy with the friends and in laws, and now he is working the kids. What a horses rear end. There are a few things I have taken the fall for when it came to the boys dad - fortunately they have gotten old enough to figure out how their dad ticks. But with something like this, I don't think I would be able to just sit there being a martyr to avoid causing any ripples in the pond, and X comming out smelling like a rose. Sometimes honesty kindly given is the better way. I remember being thrown for a loop when the real reason my father no longer lived at home (another major case of infidelity). Marcie [/QUOTE]
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