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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 574795" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>look first under causes of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) (reactive attachment disorder.....insecure attachment is part of a spectrum of attachment disorder as I understand it. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) covers it all but people usually think of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) in terms of a child who is truly unattached and has dangerous and abusive behaviors . ) most info is on adoption sites because of the obvious trauma separation from birth parents causes along with other care giving issues in adoption and foster care situations. This site has great info about all causes and the whole spectrum. </p><p></p><p>if you look on that site it talks about the cycle of bonding and why chronic pain interferes with bonding. (infant cries, parent fixes, trust builds) my son too had chronic pain and he was actually punished for screaming(I got a video tape showing a seizure from a brain mass---they didn't know that then----and he screamed and they put him in time out with firm words. had they known,I hope they'd have cuddled and reassured him but even then if the pain doesn't stop how can they learn that mommy makes it better? there is no blame, it is a situation no one can control,so sad!)</p><p></p><p>the site discusses ptsd too. the types of attachment problems including insecure attachment is discussed.</p><p></p><p></p><p>its probably an easy assumption to think some level of this is there because of the multiple care givers and chronic pain he has survived. if so, an attachment therapist( typical therapists don't do well with this, you must be involved, can't be done with a therapist and the child working together) could really help IF the therapist can be creative with someone at his developmental level and physical condition. it's at least a road to check in case it could help. It may not fit but is a path to check. </p><p></p><p></p><p>you made me laugh a little(I know it's not funny though) when I occurred his running the Occupational Therapist (OT) over. guess he needs a remote kill switch our something, lol. we have put pillows under wheels to stop aggressive kids during therapy times.</p><p></p><p>you sure have had quite a journey......I hope you feel comfortable here and please know you're not alone!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 574795, member: 12886"] look first under causes of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) (reactive attachment disorder.....insecure attachment is part of a spectrum of attachment disorder as I understand it. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) covers it all but people usually think of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) in terms of a child who is truly unattached and has dangerous and abusive behaviors . ) most info is on adoption sites because of the obvious trauma separation from birth parents causes along with other care giving issues in adoption and foster care situations. This site has great info about all causes and the whole spectrum. if you look on that site it talks about the cycle of bonding and why chronic pain interferes with bonding. (infant cries, parent fixes, trust builds) my son too had chronic pain and he was actually punished for screaming(I got a video tape showing a seizure from a brain mass---they didn't know that then----and he screamed and they put him in time out with firm words. had they known,I hope they'd have cuddled and reassured him but even then if the pain doesn't stop how can they learn that mommy makes it better? there is no blame, it is a situation no one can control,so sad!) the site discusses ptsd too. the types of attachment problems including insecure attachment is discussed. its probably an easy assumption to think some level of this is there because of the multiple care givers and chronic pain he has survived. if so, an attachment therapist( typical therapists don't do well with this, you must be involved, can't be done with a therapist and the child working together) could really help IF the therapist can be creative with someone at his developmental level and physical condition. it's at least a road to check in case it could help. It may not fit but is a path to check. you made me laugh a little(I know it's not funny though) when I occurred his running the Occupational Therapist (OT) over. guess he needs a remote kill switch our something, lol. we have put pillows under wheels to stop aggressive kids during therapy times. you sure have had quite a journey......I hope you feel comfortable here and please know you're not alone! [/QUOTE]
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