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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 511617" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p><em><strong>He just gets overwhelmed with having to do more than one thing on the same day.</strong></em></p><p><em><strong></strong></em></p><p>Bunny, this statement just leaps out at me. I don't think it's an issue of the amount of time available to complete the activities, but with your difficult child's capacity to handle more than one thing. Doing something social, such as going out to eat, involves tons of sensory input and interaction. It's a lot to take in and process for someone with anxiety issues. Throw in another activity that's new and outside the comfort zone, and it can be overwhelming.</p><p></p><p>I think Busywend's suggestion of taking your difficult child to check the place out without actually playing mini-golf is a good one. He has a chance to get familiar in small stages. It's like dipping your toe and (very) slowly easing into a cold pool. A little at a time...</p><p></p><p>Speaking from experience as one on the autism spectrum, anything involving social interaction and new places is very hard to take. Lots of sights, sounds, smells, unfamiliar people, it can all get overwhelming in a hurry. Like your difficult child, one of my strategies is to arrive very early, like he does for the bus. It gives me a chance to scope out the territory before other people are likely to be there. I can assess the light and noise levels, get used to the smell and "feel" of the place and identify my optimum spot, before I have to start dealing with people.</p><p></p><p>Maybe your difficult child simply can't manage more than one outside activity per day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 511617, member: 3907"] [I][B]He just gets overwhelmed with having to do more than one thing on the same day. [/B][/I] Bunny, this statement just leaps out at me. I don't think it's an issue of the amount of time available to complete the activities, but with your difficult child's capacity to handle more than one thing. Doing something social, such as going out to eat, involves tons of sensory input and interaction. It's a lot to take in and process for someone with anxiety issues. Throw in another activity that's new and outside the comfort zone, and it can be overwhelming. I think Busywend's suggestion of taking your difficult child to check the place out without actually playing mini-golf is a good one. He has a chance to get familiar in small stages. It's like dipping your toe and (very) slowly easing into a cold pool. A little at a time... Speaking from experience as one on the autism spectrum, anything involving social interaction and new places is very hard to take. Lots of sights, sounds, smells, unfamiliar people, it can all get overwhelming in a hurry. Like your difficult child, one of my strategies is to arrive very early, like he does for the bus. It gives me a chance to scope out the territory before other people are likely to be there. I can assess the light and noise levels, get used to the smell and "feel" of the place and identify my optimum spot, before I have to start dealing with people. Maybe your difficult child simply can't manage more than one outside activity per day. [/QUOTE]
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