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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 224078" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Fightingforcole, I was specifically referring to another poster making the suggestion that you should restrain your child by holding him face down. I would hate to see any child on this site hurt needlessly, and unfortunately it can happen if you use the wrong kind of hold. My comment was meant to protect your child.</p><p> </p><p>I can certainly understand your frustration in not getting help as quickly as you need it. Many of us here have walked in your shoes. It can take a long time to get the right diagnosis, the right interventions put into place, the right school accommodations and services set up. And meanwhile, the child and his family suffers. </p><p> </p><p>I have a few suggestions for you in response to the episode that occurred last night. I hope you understand that I offer these thoughts to help your family weather the storm until you can get the professional help you need and not as criticism for how you handled things. </p><p> </p><p>If I want my kids to settle down while watching a few more minutes of a TV show, I either lie between them so they don't interact or I put them in separate rooms to settle down. That removes the temptation to bother each other.</p><p> </p><p>If my child starts acting up during a TV show, I give him a warning that if it continues, I will turn the TV off. Simply turning it off mid-show without that warning will elicit a very vigorous response.</p><p> </p><p>We have identified safe places for our children to go to when they rage. These places have no stimulating activities (like TV) or things that can be broken, but rather have calming activities like soft pillows to punch or throw or stuffed animals to cuddle. You might want to work with your difficult child to set up a safe place for him to go to when he needs to calm down.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry you're struggling so. Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 224078, member: 2423"] Fightingforcole, I was specifically referring to another poster making the suggestion that you should restrain your child by holding him face down. I would hate to see any child on this site hurt needlessly, and unfortunately it can happen if you use the wrong kind of hold. My comment was meant to protect your child. I can certainly understand your frustration in not getting help as quickly as you need it. Many of us here have walked in your shoes. It can take a long time to get the right diagnosis, the right interventions put into place, the right school accommodations and services set up. And meanwhile, the child and his family suffers. I have a few suggestions for you in response to the episode that occurred last night. I hope you understand that I offer these thoughts to help your family weather the storm until you can get the professional help you need and not as criticism for how you handled things. If I want my kids to settle down while watching a few more minutes of a TV show, I either lie between them so they don't interact or I put them in separate rooms to settle down. That removes the temptation to bother each other. If my child starts acting up during a TV show, I give him a warning that if it continues, I will turn the TV off. Simply turning it off mid-show without that warning will elicit a very vigorous response. We have identified safe places for our children to go to when they rage. These places have no stimulating activities (like TV) or things that can be broken, but rather have calming activities like soft pillows to punch or throw or stuffed animals to cuddle. You might want to work with your difficult child to set up a safe place for him to go to when he needs to calm down. I'm sorry you're struggling so. Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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