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I knew it was bound to happen...(long)
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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 224352" data-attributes="member: 701"><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" />As young as your difficult child is, you can probably count on a lot of difficult behaviors over the holidays. I don't mean this to horrify you (!) but so you can hopefully anticipate the likely meltdowns and handle with caution.</p><p> </p><p>I've done things wrong a lot of times, but in looking at your situation, I would have let one parent take the baby, and then try and negotiate with difficult child and definitely not put a hand on him unless it was a matter of safety. (Few preschool age difficult children can turn off in the middle of their favorite show!) And at the point where he went back and turned the tv on he was already in rage mode so I would have left him there to calm down for a bit and then a little later quietly offer a juice or snack. </p><p> </p><p>You almost never win by forcing your hand with a young difficult child in a rage. They don't learn the lesson when they're so upset so shoot for keeping him calm instead. I know it goes against your mother's grain to give in but you'll need to think of him making progress at a different pace. Think a stew that simmers long and slow vs. fast food.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 224352, member: 701"] :knockedout:As young as your difficult child is, you can probably count on a lot of difficult behaviors over the holidays. I don't mean this to horrify you (!) but so you can hopefully anticipate the likely meltdowns and handle with caution. I've done things wrong a lot of times, but in looking at your situation, I would have let one parent take the baby, and then try and negotiate with difficult child and definitely not put a hand on him unless it was a matter of safety. (Few preschool age difficult children can turn off in the middle of their favorite show!) And at the point where he went back and turned the tv on he was already in rage mode so I would have left him there to calm down for a bit and then a little later quietly offer a juice or snack. You almost never win by forcing your hand with a young difficult child in a rage. They don't learn the lesson when they're so upset so shoot for keeping him calm instead. I know it goes against your mother's grain to give in but you'll need to think of him making progress at a different pace. Think a stew that simmers long and slow vs. fast food. [/QUOTE]
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