I think it is great, RN, that you were able to separate from your son and that all parties are thriving, as a result.
Staying at my house is a temporary condition. The plan is a sober living facility. He has to save up enough money to get in one. I am not going to "enable" him (ha ha) by paying for it . . . he has to earn it.
And yes, my whole family has been on the roller coaster, some of us more than others . . .
Most of the time I would not be able to accommodate him, energetically, but this time, I felt like I could . . .
It is totally up to him what happens. In any case, he will not be in my house forever or even for a long time. Neither one of us want that. We don't get along that well and he really does want/need to individuate.
I had told him on an earlier relapse that I would not "rescue" him - but this time there are other factors that I am aware of, and my spiritual beliefs have changed and I now understand something differently than I did.
Each person is different - each family is different - we all want everyone to prosper. If only that could happen.
I want to focus on good right now and visualize him well.
