I am learning a lot with my grandson here - I am a super control freak . . . I want to pack his lunch to make sure he gets enough calories cuz he's working (he won't let me) . . . I am basically a nervous wreck . . . part of it is my fear of not being able to cope - so I want to do things to ward off disaster . . . part of it is what I view as his lack of planning that I want to make up for or advise about . . . my fear is being stirred up because I love him so much and want him to be well. It is very primal. I like getting to see how I operate.
I don't remember being like this with my kids - only one kid who I also felt was "in danger" - when I perceive someone I love is "in danger," I want to rescue them. Like an EMT, although I doubt they have the emotion driving them that I have.
