Oh dear.... I do hope that you don't feel judged here SEEK.
I know not everyone agrees how to approach every situation and I think that is ok. I have felt too that since I am not really capable of the more "tough love" approach maybe others could think I'm doing it wrong.... but I don't feel that anymore.
I have accepted that I have to live with my decisions and the consequences. I know none of us have all the answers. No two kids or situations are alike. And we all have to be able to live with our choices.
I do hope you feel supported. I have felt support here and I come here to vent, to ask advice (I don't always take it) and to just feel less alone....
Take care....
