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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 198135" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>I'm really late coming to this conversation, but just wanted to add my 0.02 and hugs. From what you've described, you ARE an abused woman. No wonder you feel like one. It's time to define your boundaries and take back your life, as the others have said. </p><p></p><p>We did the stripped-room thing with our difficult child several times ... it definitely made an impression. He wasn't happy, but he played ball regarding rules and manners. It showed us that he COULD follow the rules and use manners. He was much younger then than your daughter is now, however. Now, she is an adult - you are not the only adult in this situation, and you don't have to regard her as a child any more. She is choosing to say the things she does. You can choose not to take her abuse.</p><p></p><p>I don't want to reiterate all the great advice the others have given; just want to let you know we've been there, and it's possible to stand up for yourself and not be beaten down. The fact that you're starting to detach means you're looking at things more objectively and you'll be able to make some decisions that will help you - maybe, incidentally, your difficult child, but primarily you. You deserve it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 198135, member: 2884"] I'm really late coming to this conversation, but just wanted to add my 0.02 and hugs. From what you've described, you ARE an abused woman. No wonder you feel like one. It's time to define your boundaries and take back your life, as the others have said. We did the stripped-room thing with our difficult child several times ... it definitely made an impression. He wasn't happy, but he played ball regarding rules and manners. It showed us that he COULD follow the rules and use manners. He was much younger then than your daughter is now, however. Now, she is an adult - you are not the only adult in this situation, and you don't have to regard her as a child any more. She is choosing to say the things she does. You can choose not to take her abuse. I don't want to reiterate all the great advice the others have given; just want to let you know we've been there, and it's possible to stand up for yourself and not be beaten down. The fact that you're starting to detach means you're looking at things more objectively and you'll be able to make some decisions that will help you - maybe, incidentally, your difficult child, but primarily you. You deserve it. [/QUOTE]
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