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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 289077" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>It's quite possible that you are so desperate to ease your anxieties that you are over-analyzing everyone and everything you can think of. I have never been a victim so I have no been there done that suggestions BUT little difficult child was a victim of abuse and I sought out the very best expert in Florida to make sure any damage was appropriately dealt with.</p><p> </p><p>This #1 expert said, bottom line, "do not make the mistake of delving into the past and reinforcing what happened". She went on to explain that the sexual abuse most victims experience is not severe or painful or for a long period of time. Most abuse is an event or a few events that result in guilt more than painful repercussions. Keep it simple. Listen to the victim when they want to speak BUT do not regurgitate the past. There are trips to the beach or new library books etc. that are more worthy of thought and conversation.</p><p> </p><p>If what you think may be true is actually true, there is not one single reason to focus on it in 2009. If you were victimized but can't remember what happened, in my humble opinion there is not one single reason to focus on it in 2009 or future years. It's over. The impact it had (if it happened) is over too.</p><p> </p><p>And, furthermore, in my humble opinion I see absolutely no reason to share with your son events that happened long ago that have no relevance to his life. He is a big kid who is smart and by the time he is discharged he will know more about the subject than he would ever learn living at home. It's a non-issue.</p><p> </p><p>LOL! Don't you wish I would just go to bed and HUSH? DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 289077, member: 35"] It's quite possible that you are so desperate to ease your anxieties that you are over-analyzing everyone and everything you can think of. I have never been a victim so I have no been there done that suggestions BUT little difficult child was a victim of abuse and I sought out the very best expert in Florida to make sure any damage was appropriately dealt with. This #1 expert said, bottom line, "do not make the mistake of delving into the past and reinforcing what happened". She went on to explain that the sexual abuse most victims experience is not severe or painful or for a long period of time. Most abuse is an event or a few events that result in guilt more than painful repercussions. Keep it simple. Listen to the victim when they want to speak BUT do not regurgitate the past. There are trips to the beach or new library books etc. that are more worthy of thought and conversation. If what you think may be true is actually true, there is not one single reason to focus on it in 2009. If you were victimized but can't remember what happened, in my humble opinion there is not one single reason to focus on it in 2009 or future years. It's over. The impact it had (if it happened) is over too. And, furthermore, in my humble opinion I see absolutely no reason to share with your son events that happened long ago that have no relevance to his life. He is a big kid who is smart and by the time he is discharged he will know more about the subject than he would ever learn living at home. It's a non-issue. LOL! Don't you wish I would just go to bed and HUSH? DDD [/QUOTE]
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