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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 289115" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Three of my kids were molested. My now 25 year old daughter who used to abuse drugs was raped at eight. My other two were raped by that monster child we adopted (sorry, hope that doesn't offend anyone--that is how *I* think of him).</p><p></p><p>My daughter never told us she was raped at age eight. Well, she didn't tell us until she was fourteen. She was well into drug use and self-hatred by then. Cutting. Bad crowd. Stealing. We were told by many sexual abuse therapists (their specialty) that this is very common for kids who are abused. I wish my oldest had told me. We would have dealt with it in therapy. I feel it's dangerous if they "block it out." It is still there. It will come out in different way. I can't imagine it being filed away as casually as falling off a swing. It was a major trauma and influence in my daughter's life. I think my younger two are doing much better BECAUSE of the early intervention and intensive therapy. But their therapists are still on "watch" in case we see any signs and both know they can talk about the abuse any time. Do we dwell on it? No! But we have professionals ready if needed for both kids.</p><p></p><p>I have always told my kids about my past, but maybe it was easier because I was only verbally abused--not hit or sexually abused. Maybe I'm TOO honest with my kids. They know everything about me. It was easier to explain why I was estranged from my mother, why my sister kept calling the police on me <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /> and why my brother was so mean to me by telling them the truth as *I* knew the truth, including telling them the things I felt I did wrong. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, just a bit of a vent on the topic. No harm intended toward anyone. Anytime the words "sexual abuse" and "children" come up, I swing into PTSD as I have to recall that three of my children had this experience--one being raped at a friend's house by an unknown drunken visitor and one being from a child we had adopted at age eleven and loved very much.</p><p></p><p>Off the soap box!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 289115, member: 1550"] Three of my kids were molested. My now 25 year old daughter who used to abuse drugs was raped at eight. My other two were raped by that monster child we adopted (sorry, hope that doesn't offend anyone--that is how *I* think of him). My daughter never told us she was raped at age eight. Well, she didn't tell us until she was fourteen. She was well into drug use and self-hatred by then. Cutting. Bad crowd. Stealing. We were told by many sexual abuse therapists (their specialty) that this is very common for kids who are abused. I wish my oldest had told me. We would have dealt with it in therapy. I feel it's dangerous if they "block it out." It is still there. It will come out in different way. I can't imagine it being filed away as casually as falling off a swing. It was a major trauma and influence in my daughter's life. I think my younger two are doing much better BECAUSE of the early intervention and intensive therapy. But their therapists are still on "watch" in case we see any signs and both know they can talk about the abuse any time. Do we dwell on it? No! But we have professionals ready if needed for both kids. I have always told my kids about my past, but maybe it was easier because I was only verbally abused--not hit or sexually abused. Maybe I'm TOO honest with my kids. They know everything about me. It was easier to explain why I was estranged from my mother, why my sister kept calling the police on me :raspberry-tounge: and why my brother was so mean to me by telling them the truth as *I* knew the truth, including telling them the things I felt I did wrong. Anyway, just a bit of a vent on the topic. No harm intended toward anyone. Anytime the words "sexual abuse" and "children" come up, I swing into PTSD as I have to recall that three of my children had this experience--one being raped at a friend's house by an unknown drunken visitor and one being from a child we had adopted at age eleven and loved very much. Off the soap box!!!! [/QUOTE]
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