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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 422397" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>difficult child 1 didn't go to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) either. He went into boot camp. Boot camp that we all bet he'd fail. We expected him to be awol. And if it were the "old" military? He would have. As it is, they gave him a second chance. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm not downplaying your gut feeling at all. All I'm saying is if you rush in and try to fix it, she's going to resent you more and its gonna take her that much longer to hit bottom. She's not going to change until SHE wants it. She's not going to change until whatever she's doiing now isn't working for her anymore. And you can't make those things happen, no matter what you do.</p><p></p><p>Drag her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Sure, it would be nice. Whatever happens there is going to be YOUR fault. She has to own it in order for it to work. Good or bad.</p><p></p><p>You have to learn to let go somehow. Even the other mom. While you and I don't agree with what she's doing? Its still easy child that's choosing that path. Beating up that mom won't fix a thing. That would be like beating up another woman that your husband is sleeping with...yeah, she's part of it, but he's doing it, too...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 422397, member: 1848"] difficult child 1 didn't go to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) either. He went into boot camp. Boot camp that we all bet he'd fail. We expected him to be awol. And if it were the "old" military? He would have. As it is, they gave him a second chance. I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm not downplaying your gut feeling at all. All I'm saying is if you rush in and try to fix it, she's going to resent you more and its gonna take her that much longer to hit bottom. She's not going to change until SHE wants it. She's not going to change until whatever she's doiing now isn't working for her anymore. And you can't make those things happen, no matter what you do. Drag her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Sure, it would be nice. Whatever happens there is going to be YOUR fault. She has to own it in order for it to work. Good or bad. You have to learn to let go somehow. Even the other mom. While you and I don't agree with what she's doing? Its still easy child that's choosing that path. Beating up that mom won't fix a thing. That would be like beating up another woman that your husband is sleeping with...yeah, she's part of it, but he's doing it, too... [/QUOTE]
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