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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 422422" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Jena, I'm sorry it took me so long to get here, but I don't check the WC every day. I think you are a very strong woman and I feel really badly for what you're going through, partly because of my own older daughter who put us through so much. We also made her leave and she wouldn't speak to us for several months. I cried myself to sleep every night. I stumbled through every day. My heart hurt. But the reality was, she wouldn't stop doing drugs at home. She was self-destructing. And the younger two kids had to see the cops at the door. They were terrified of her when she got out of control due to her drug use. But that didn't stop the pain.</p><p></p><p>You know the story of Julie (she's legal now, that's her name and I'm so very proud of her). While away from us, she didn't starve. She found herself a job and walked to work every day. She started to call me again and we kept in close touch. She quit drugs ON HER OWN and calmed down, reassessing her behavior. She met a NICE young man and has been with him for eight years now. She went back to college to fulfill her dream of being a pastry chef (cooking is her passion and she rocks at it and excels). She wouldn't put forth any effort toward her potential at home, but she did on her own. She is still in school and works in their restaurant...they are probably going to offer her both a permanent job there AND a teaching position, in which they will pay her to go back to school. She bought her own home. Kicking her out was the best thing we did. While she was home and her needs were taken care of, she was not motivated to stop the drugs.</p><p></p><p>Please think of the possibility of a happy ending for your easy child and focus on that. She will come around and be in your life again. I would not comment on any choices she makes in the meantime. She will only rebel. But she may get "tired of myself" like my daughter did and turn a corner. My thoughts are with you. I understand how you feel.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 422422, member: 1550"] Jena, I'm sorry it took me so long to get here, but I don't check the WC every day. I think you are a very strong woman and I feel really badly for what you're going through, partly because of my own older daughter who put us through so much. We also made her leave and she wouldn't speak to us for several months. I cried myself to sleep every night. I stumbled through every day. My heart hurt. But the reality was, she wouldn't stop doing drugs at home. She was self-destructing. And the younger two kids had to see the cops at the door. They were terrified of her when she got out of control due to her drug use. But that didn't stop the pain. You know the story of Julie (she's legal now, that's her name and I'm so very proud of her). While away from us, she didn't starve. She found herself a job and walked to work every day. She started to call me again and we kept in close touch. She quit drugs ON HER OWN and calmed down, reassessing her behavior. She met a NICE young man and has been with him for eight years now. She went back to college to fulfill her dream of being a pastry chef (cooking is her passion and she rocks at it and excels). She wouldn't put forth any effort toward her potential at home, but she did on her own. She is still in school and works in their restaurant...they are probably going to offer her both a permanent job there AND a teaching position, in which they will pay her to go back to school. She bought her own home. Kicking her out was the best thing we did. While she was home and her needs were taken care of, she was not motivated to stop the drugs. Please think of the possibility of a happy ending for your easy child and focus on that. She will come around and be in your life again. I would not comment on any choices she makes in the meantime. She will only rebel. But she may get "tired of myself" like my daughter did and turn a corner. My thoughts are with you. I understand how you feel. [/QUOTE]
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