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I miss my sister...for the first time in say 55 years.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 654444" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It is never too late to try. I can try tonight. I know my sister will be mean and hang up or insult me or yell at me, but if I tried, I tried. I don't feel it is worth it though if you know what is coming. I did that with my mom. Her head must have swollen each time I called her and said I loved her when she was not going to give an inch and was already planning to disown me...actually, she already had. What's the point?</p><p></p><p>My sister is in therapy. She changed a lot. She cut me off again (only her tenth time...some big change...haha) and she still is with her uber-abusive, alcoholic boyfriend that we used to talk about ad nauseum and I tried to help her deteach from him "but I can't. I can't do it. I'm not ready. I need somebody else first." So her therapist must be a gem because she has NOT cut him off. He is the one who should have long been gone, but he isn't. At this rate, she will be his bed buddy forever and I can't say I blame him for getting away with it, since he can. It's her fault for letting him do it.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes they are just so behind us in growth that they never catch up and we can't help it, even though we wish it were different. I wish it were different. as I loved her so very much. But it's not to be. I promised myself I'd never let her come back this time and I have to be good to myself and stand firm, even if she comes back again as she always has, even when I never thought she would. I am done with the games. I may feel sad about what s he did, reading and laughing, but that doesn't mean I want her back.</p><p></p><p>Seems like our sisters are trainwrecks and we are t he ones with the stability.</p><p></p><p>I get no happiness from that. I tried my hardest to get my sister to move on to another NICE man when she met one, but she wouldn't do it. And as for changing...she is still angry at me and only me to the extent that she will allow this man to abuse her for five years, and NEVER cut him off yet cut me off because of a comment or non-life changing action I did that I probably shouldn't have done, but it was nothing big. What this guy does is big and he is on her mind all the time. He is lifechanging for her in a bad way. Crazy.</p><p></p><p>We are the lucky ones. Let's count our blessings and keep our lives peaceful.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to all <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 654444, member: 1550"] It is never too late to try. I can try tonight. I know my sister will be mean and hang up or insult me or yell at me, but if I tried, I tried. I don't feel it is worth it though if you know what is coming. I did that with my mom. Her head must have swollen each time I called her and said I loved her when she was not going to give an inch and was already planning to disown me...actually, she already had. What's the point? My sister is in therapy. She changed a lot. She cut me off again (only her tenth time...some big change...haha) and she still is with her uber-abusive, alcoholic boyfriend that we used to talk about ad nauseum and I tried to help her deteach from him "but I can't. I can't do it. I'm not ready. I need somebody else first." So her therapist must be a gem because she has NOT cut him off. He is the one who should have long been gone, but he isn't. At this rate, she will be his bed buddy forever and I can't say I blame him for getting away with it, since he can. It's her fault for letting him do it. Sometimes they are just so behind us in growth that they never catch up and we can't help it, even though we wish it were different. I wish it were different. as I loved her so very much. But it's not to be. I promised myself I'd never let her come back this time and I have to be good to myself and stand firm, even if she comes back again as she always has, even when I never thought she would. I am done with the games. I may feel sad about what s he did, reading and laughing, but that doesn't mean I want her back. Seems like our sisters are trainwrecks and we are t he ones with the stability. I get no happiness from that. I tried my hardest to get my sister to move on to another NICE man when she met one, but she wouldn't do it. And as for changing...she is still angry at me and only me to the extent that she will allow this man to abuse her for five years, and NEVER cut him off yet cut me off because of a comment or non-life changing action I did that I probably shouldn't have done, but it was nothing big. What this guy does is big and he is on her mind all the time. He is lifechanging for her in a bad way. Crazy. We are the lucky ones. Let's count our blessings and keep our lives peaceful. Hugs to all :) [/QUOTE]
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