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<blockquote data-quote="AmericanGirl" data-source="post: 547837"><p>Hi Pam...and welcome,</p><p></p><p>More will be long soon.</p><p></p><p>As for me, I HIGHLY recommend a book called Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children. It is the main tool I used to get my very stubborn 18 year old to treatment in March.</p><p></p><p>Don't underestimate these kids, he probably can survive the streets...addicts are very resourceful. And don't lose sight of the fact that being on the street may be the thing which causes him to submit to rehab. For example, my difficult child recently left rehab after 5 months. Idiot decided to be homeless and couch surf while trusting his equally-idiotic old using pals. In five days, he was broken...said he never knew it could get that bad that fast. Now I could have told him that but would he listen? NO!</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, have you considered installing a safe? Mine cost slightly over $100. I put it on a sturdy closet shelf and used three inch wood screws to attach it to the studs in the wall. You have to have a key and a combo to open it. Alternatively, you might lock your valuables in your car and keep the key with you at all times.</p><p></p><p>I installed a security system in January. Simple wireless ones are available where you add contacts only for your doors. Monitoring starts at $10 a month. My insurance dropped 15% (but mine has a fire alarm too).</p><p></p><p>Back to your son, I think you have to decide what you want. That book helped me get clear on what behaviors were unacceptable. It gave me the strength to give difficult child tight boundaries. I didn't keep warning or repeating - just let the consequences happen.</p><p></p><p>Finally, Al-anon and Families Anonymous are both excellent sources of support for you. You need it and you deserve it.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AmericanGirl, post: 547837"] Hi Pam...and welcome, More will be long soon. As for me, I HIGHLY recommend a book called Setting Boundaries with Your Adult Children. It is the main tool I used to get my very stubborn 18 year old to treatment in March. Don't underestimate these kids, he probably can survive the streets...addicts are very resourceful. And don't lose sight of the fact that being on the street may be the thing which causes him to submit to rehab. For example, my difficult child recently left rehab after 5 months. Idiot decided to be homeless and couch surf while trusting his equally-idiotic old using pals. In five days, he was broken...said he never knew it could get that bad that fast. Now I could have told him that but would he listen? NO! In the meantime, have you considered installing a safe? Mine cost slightly over $100. I put it on a sturdy closet shelf and used three inch wood screws to attach it to the studs in the wall. You have to have a key and a combo to open it. Alternatively, you might lock your valuables in your car and keep the key with you at all times. I installed a security system in January. Simple wireless ones are available where you add contacts only for your doors. Monitoring starts at $10 a month. My insurance dropped 15% (but mine has a fire alarm too). Back to your son, I think you have to decide what you want. That book helped me get clear on what behaviors were unacceptable. It gave me the strength to give difficult child tight boundaries. I didn't keep warning or repeating - just let the consequences happen. Finally, Al-anon and Families Anonymous are both excellent sources of support for you. You need it and you deserve it. Keep posting! [/QUOTE]
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