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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 556365" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Pam, it is very common to realize how serious our loved ones addiction was once they go to rehab. While you are entrenched in daily life with your difficult child it is very difficult to see the whole picture. It takes some distance to gain clarity of the situation. </p><p></p><p>My daughter spent 60 days in residential treatment and then she came home. She should have gone to a recovery house because 60 days is not neary long enough for recovery to gain a hold. She did attend an intensive outpatient IOP through the treatment center but she relapsed shortly after she was released. Several months later she went to a recovery house (sober house or halfway house) and she stayed for four months. After her first three months she was able to get a job and we hoped she was well on her way in recovery but she relapsed shortly after and left the sober house. She is now living in an apartment in a bad part of town and barely making it and no longer in recovery.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure that's not what you wanted to hear and I'm sorry I couldn't tell you it was a better outcome, but one thing I will say is that if he stands any chance at sustained sobriety it is best if he goes to a recovery house. Each sober house is different so please make sure you check them out very well. The one our difficult child went to was awesome and has a very good track record. During the first three months they have meetings every day, group discussions, outside counselors who come in several times a week, meet with their sponsor and work the steps, they do volunteer work in the community and they are restricted in where they can go. They are required to go to outside meetings every day after the first 30 days but they have to be driven by a long time AA members and it had to be of the same sex. the residents were responsible for cleaning the house and caring for the property and cooking food for the residents and grocery shopping. The idea is to build a sober support group so that when they do go out into society they don't fall right back into the same pattern with the same crowd. The cost for the one we used was $400 a month. </p><p></p><p>I encourage you to hold the line and require him to go to a recovery house. It is far too easy to relapse if he comes right back to the old environment. Thirty days is nothing in recovery. </p><p></p><p>Please keep us posted. by the way once my difficult child was out of the house and I saw how peaceful things could be I vowed to never ever go back to those dark days.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 556365, member: 59"] Pam, it is very common to realize how serious our loved ones addiction was once they go to rehab. While you are entrenched in daily life with your difficult child it is very difficult to see the whole picture. It takes some distance to gain clarity of the situation. My daughter spent 60 days in residential treatment and then she came home. She should have gone to a recovery house because 60 days is not neary long enough for recovery to gain a hold. She did attend an intensive outpatient IOP through the treatment center but she relapsed shortly after she was released. Several months later she went to a recovery house (sober house or halfway house) and she stayed for four months. After her first three months she was able to get a job and we hoped she was well on her way in recovery but she relapsed shortly after and left the sober house. She is now living in an apartment in a bad part of town and barely making it and no longer in recovery. I'm sure that's not what you wanted to hear and I'm sorry I couldn't tell you it was a better outcome, but one thing I will say is that if he stands any chance at sustained sobriety it is best if he goes to a recovery house. Each sober house is different so please make sure you check them out very well. The one our difficult child went to was awesome and has a very good track record. During the first three months they have meetings every day, group discussions, outside counselors who come in several times a week, meet with their sponsor and work the steps, they do volunteer work in the community and they are restricted in where they can go. They are required to go to outside meetings every day after the first 30 days but they have to be driven by a long time AA members and it had to be of the same sex. the residents were responsible for cleaning the house and caring for the property and cooking food for the residents and grocery shopping. The idea is to build a sober support group so that when they do go out into society they don't fall right back into the same pattern with the same crowd. The cost for the one we used was $400 a month. I encourage you to hold the line and require him to go to a recovery house. It is far too easy to relapse if he comes right back to the old environment. Thirty days is nothing in recovery. Please keep us posted. by the way once my difficult child was out of the house and I saw how peaceful things could be I vowed to never ever go back to those dark days. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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