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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 66762" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I want to make one thing clear. You can't just give a child back to the state any more than you can do that with a biological child. You can send your child to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and in most states both adoptive and biological parents can relinquish their parental rights to their children, and sometimes do it strictly to get the child more services. In Wisconsin, you are never allowed to give up your rights to a child, but you can ask the state to step in and take custody so that the child can afford to go to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC), etc. It is, in my opinion, no easier emotionally to give up rights to an adopted child than one you gave birth to. We did it because our son was so dangerous that he was a threat to kill us as well as to continue abusing our younger kids and the ones in the neighborhood. CPS didn't *want* him with us because he was already holding knives to people. If our bio. kid had done that, he'd have been just as gone from our house, if not our lives, for the sakes of the safety and mental health of the other children. We would have never given up on him if he had not been so frightening that my younger kids are terrified of him, and I hear he hasn't changed. At any rate, just wanted to clear up that you can't just say "I changed my mind" to the State. And nobody should go into adoption thinking that way. Any child MAY need to sever contact with his parent, biological or adoptive if he/she is a serious threat to the family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 66762, member: 1550"] I want to make one thing clear. You can't just give a child back to the state any more than you can do that with a biological child. You can send your child to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and in most states both adoptive and biological parents can relinquish their parental rights to their children, and sometimes do it strictly to get the child more services. In Wisconsin, you are never allowed to give up your rights to a child, but you can ask the state to step in and take custody so that the child can afford to go to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC), etc. It is, in my opinion, no easier emotionally to give up rights to an adopted child than one you gave birth to. We did it because our son was so dangerous that he was a threat to kill us as well as to continue abusing our younger kids and the ones in the neighborhood. CPS didn't *want* him with us because he was already holding knives to people. If our bio. kid had done that, he'd have been just as gone from our house, if not our lives, for the sakes of the safety and mental health of the other children. We would have never given up on him if he had not been so frightening that my younger kids are terrified of him, and I hear he hasn't changed. At any rate, just wanted to clear up that you can't just say "I changed my mind" to the State. And nobody should go into adoption thinking that way. Any child MAY need to sever contact with his parent, biological or adoptive if he/she is a serious threat to the family. [/QUOTE]
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