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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 618727" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>ahhhhh. I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel, as far as that is possible. </p><p>I couldn't let me son come stay with me when he left jail either.</p><p>If he has been homeless before he probably has some "place to crash" moves. Our difficult child's are amazingly resourceful, that comes up over and over again on the forum.</p><p>I would probably let him know now that he can't stay with you. Might also let his attorney know..they seem to be interested in that kind of thing, and may be able to point your son somewhere.</p><p>I hope you don't have to be in the position of driving him anywhere, that sounds hard.</p><p>Good you have some old clothes you can give him.</p><p>There is no need , requirement, or reason for you to be involved. You are absolved. You don't have to do anything. This is all of his making. Only he can unmake it. Staying with you for a night or a month isn't going to move him in the right direction.</p><p>And you deserve better. You've done your part. No reason for you to feel you need to take him in (is he expecting that? maybe not?), drive him anywhere, arrange any more psychiatric appointments for him, or talk to lawyers for him (although I understand the social pressure to do that if the DA is family friend and trying to be helpful). Find your comfort level, do the least you can do, and be clear that difficult child is on his own from when he walks out of the prison doors. If he does. </p><p></p><p>Keep posting. We are here to support you through this hard period. Its hard to stick to your guns. We of all people know that.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 618727, member: 17269"] ahhhhh. I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel, as far as that is possible. I couldn't let me son come stay with me when he left jail either. If he has been homeless before he probably has some "place to crash" moves. Our difficult child's are amazingly resourceful, that comes up over and over again on the forum. I would probably let him know now that he can't stay with you. Might also let his attorney know..they seem to be interested in that kind of thing, and may be able to point your son somewhere. I hope you don't have to be in the position of driving him anywhere, that sounds hard. Good you have some old clothes you can give him. There is no need , requirement, or reason for you to be involved. You are absolved. You don't have to do anything. This is all of his making. Only he can unmake it. Staying with you for a night or a month isn't going to move him in the right direction. And you deserve better. You've done your part. No reason for you to feel you need to take him in (is he expecting that? maybe not?), drive him anywhere, arrange any more psychiatric appointments for him, or talk to lawyers for him (although I understand the social pressure to do that if the DA is family friend and trying to be helpful). Find your comfort level, do the least you can do, and be clear that difficult child is on his own from when he walks out of the prison doors. If he does. Keep posting. We are here to support you through this hard period. Its hard to stick to your guns. We of all people know that. Echo [/QUOTE]
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