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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 363312" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>Thanks, all. </p><p> </p><p>I'm not looking for Better Homes and Gardens or anything like that...I'd just like to not have food remnants everywhere and be expected to either live with it or clean it up all the time. We are busy people with a difficult child, and I expect the house to reflect that. </p><p> </p><p>And I guess I at least expect him to be able to contribute an hour a day to the house, since not a day goes by that he's not in front of a screen for at least 3...(yesterday, a Monday...he put in 5 hours in front of the tube).</p><p> </p><p>He bought a $5000 zero turn 70" cut lawnmower so he could mow the yard faster. So, now, he mows faster - but only where the giant thing will fit - and the rest looks like a hobo shack til I go whack it down by hand or with the weed eater. Yeah, its faster. And what does he do with that saved time? I have no idea. Yard looks 10 times worse. </p><p> </p><p>He has never been responsible for his own place. His folks' place is as disgusting as ours (if not worse) so I know part of it was growing up like that. But he despises their place and says when "we have a new house", we'll do this or that. I believe that as much as I believe husband will fly the space shuttle. He can't keep the CAMPER clean for a weekend, and it IS nice. When we first moved in together, he helped me. Now, his help is only as much attention as he can spare while keeping the tv on.</p><p> </p><p>I was a single mom with 2 young teen boys and an infant/toddler and my house was WAY cleaner and more presentable then than it is now. I think that speaks volumes about the situation, I just don't know how to address it. I don't want to split up over a clean house, but really, there are times that if DFS came in, I think they'd be coming back...and I'm not gonna lose my family over his Broom Closet habits (because he HAS gotten DFS called on us a couple of times - nothing has ever come of it, not even an interview, but still...)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 363312, member: 1848"] Thanks, all. I'm not looking for Better Homes and Gardens or anything like that...I'd just like to not have food remnants everywhere and be expected to either live with it or clean it up all the time. We are busy people with a difficult child, and I expect the house to reflect that. And I guess I at least expect him to be able to contribute an hour a day to the house, since not a day goes by that he's not in front of a screen for at least 3...(yesterday, a Monday...he put in 5 hours in front of the tube). He bought a $5000 zero turn 70" cut lawnmower so he could mow the yard faster. So, now, he mows faster - but only where the giant thing will fit - and the rest looks like a hobo shack til I go whack it down by hand or with the weed eater. Yeah, its faster. And what does he do with that saved time? I have no idea. Yard looks 10 times worse. He has never been responsible for his own place. His folks' place is as disgusting as ours (if not worse) so I know part of it was growing up like that. But he despises their place and says when "we have a new house", we'll do this or that. I believe that as much as I believe husband will fly the space shuttle. He can't keep the CAMPER clean for a weekend, and it IS nice. When we first moved in together, he helped me. Now, his help is only as much attention as he can spare while keeping the tv on. I was a single mom with 2 young teen boys and an infant/toddler and my house was WAY cleaner and more presentable then than it is now. I think that speaks volumes about the situation, I just don't know how to address it. I don't want to split up over a clean house, but really, there are times that if DFS came in, I think they'd be coming back...and I'm not gonna lose my family over his Broom Closet habits (because he HAS gotten DFS called on us a couple of times - nothing has ever come of it, not even an interview, but still...) [/QUOTE]
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