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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 602133" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Due to circumstances I have not had to take those steps, as you know. on the other hand I truly believe that now is the time for you to set boundaries together with husband and easy child. As your very recent scare indicated there is no way to truly "know" how many more years you (or anyone of us) might have to redirect our own lives. It breaks my heart that you have to face that only he can change his lifestyle. You've been trying and trying and trying. You can't do it for him.</p><p></p><p>You always stay in my thoughts and my heart. Those who have had to take that big step of separation are the ones to listen to closely. I assume they might suggest that you change the locks at home and at the business. Perhaps they will know whether you should sell the truck or transfer the truck and eliminate him from the insurance policy. No matter what steps are necessary I encourage you to take them. You'll also have to predetermine, I assume, if you are going to change phone numbers or just limit how often you accept calls from him and his SO....that's going to be a big decision, too. </p><p></p><p>If you feel overwhelmed consider going to visit your Mom for a week or two so you won't be absorbed in the drama. I don't doubt that husband and easy child can face the flack. In the long run there is no doubt that this is not only the best choice for him but also the best choice for you. Figure out how you can distance yourself as much as possible because he has always turned to you. I will be saying prayers and sending supportive thoughts. Your friend, DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 602133, member: 35"] Due to circumstances I have not had to take those steps, as you know. on the other hand I truly believe that now is the time for you to set boundaries together with husband and easy child. As your very recent scare indicated there is no way to truly "know" how many more years you (or anyone of us) might have to redirect our own lives. It breaks my heart that you have to face that only he can change his lifestyle. You've been trying and trying and trying. You can't do it for him. You always stay in my thoughts and my heart. Those who have had to take that big step of separation are the ones to listen to closely. I assume they might suggest that you change the locks at home and at the business. Perhaps they will know whether you should sell the truck or transfer the truck and eliminate him from the insurance policy. No matter what steps are necessary I encourage you to take them. You'll also have to predetermine, I assume, if you are going to change phone numbers or just limit how often you accept calls from him and his SO....that's going to be a big decision, too. If you feel overwhelmed consider going to visit your Mom for a week or two so you won't be absorbed in the drama. I don't doubt that husband and easy child can face the flack. In the long run there is no doubt that this is not only the best choice for him but also the best choice for you. Figure out how you can distance yourself as much as possible because he has always turned to you. I will be saying prayers and sending supportive thoughts. Your friend, DDD [/QUOTE]
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