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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 449805" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm so glad that you made the appointment with the attorney. Being in limbo and surrounded by "what if's" is the ultimate stressor. Once you know what the situation is and the choices are then you can adapt to the realities of your situation. Leaving mother in law out of the conversations is, in my humble opinion, the very best choice. She has lost her life partner rather suddenly, the mourning process is continuing with another memorial reception on the horizon and your husband is mourning too. Discussing possessions and the disposition of properties at this time (particularly with the history you and mother in law have) could easily lead to a negative knee jerk reaction that would not be pretty. With professional advice and the appropriate passing of time I hope it works out the way you want it to.</p><p></p><p>This should serve as a reminder to all of us to review our wills and personal assets as well as to bring up the dreaded subject with our parents if they are still alive. It's inconvenient and can be terribly awkard but after the fact it can be too late. husband and I have wills that leave "everything" to the surviving spouse as do most couples. We have named the Executors for our estates. Surprisingly I have not put in writing who I want to receive my limited possessions. I know I should. I just haven't. I served as the Executrix for both my parents. We are a family of basically "good" people. It was shocking to me how a couple of my siblings reacted following the deaths. The two wealthier ones removed items from the house with-o my advance knowledge. My Mother, the surviving spouse, had "told" one that her diamond rings were going to one of the nephews and the rings were taken out of State. Awkwardly her written list showed that they were to go to a different grandchild. Yikes! Sometimes I don't think we have every jelled after the after death complexities. Make a will, make a list and let your children know what the plans are in advance. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 449805, member: 35"] I'm so glad that you made the appointment with the attorney. Being in limbo and surrounded by "what if's" is the ultimate stressor. Once you know what the situation is and the choices are then you can adapt to the realities of your situation. Leaving mother in law out of the conversations is, in my humble opinion, the very best choice. She has lost her life partner rather suddenly, the mourning process is continuing with another memorial reception on the horizon and your husband is mourning too. Discussing possessions and the disposition of properties at this time (particularly with the history you and mother in law have) could easily lead to a negative knee jerk reaction that would not be pretty. With professional advice and the appropriate passing of time I hope it works out the way you want it to. This should serve as a reminder to all of us to review our wills and personal assets as well as to bring up the dreaded subject with our parents if they are still alive. It's inconvenient and can be terribly awkard but after the fact it can be too late. husband and I have wills that leave "everything" to the surviving spouse as do most couples. We have named the Executors for our estates. Surprisingly I have not put in writing who I want to receive my limited possessions. I know I should. I just haven't. I served as the Executrix for both my parents. We are a family of basically "good" people. It was shocking to me how a couple of my siblings reacted following the deaths. The two wealthier ones removed items from the house with-o my advance knowledge. My Mother, the surviving spouse, had "told" one that her diamond rings were going to one of the nephews and the rings were taken out of State. Awkwardly her written list showed that they were to go to a different grandchild. Yikes! Sometimes I don't think we have every jelled after the after death complexities. Make a will, make a list and let your children know what the plans are in advance. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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