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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 600008" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I was there when M was 17. Thank goodness he had more credits than yours does, and he graduated HS by the skin of his teeth and through making his dad and I out to be crazies and moving in with a teacher against our wishes. But I digress.</p><p></p><p>Pay for anything? Nah. M got his clothes and some books, and that was it. I would certainly offer him the counseling after I had found a counselor that was on the same page as you and your husband. I would mediate an agreement with a counselor present, and not one minute beforehand. </p><p></p><p>I'm not quite understanding where he would live while he goes to summer school before you get him a shared accommodation? Or will you pay for SA while he is in summer school?</p><p></p><p>Unless your difficult child has been honest and lived up to his end of bargains in the past, I would strike no grand bargains with him. Do you have health insurance that would cover a treatment facility? That's a safe place to live, and he can do schoolwork there. (The one we sent M to was of no help whatsoever, but we had no time for research. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> ) </p><p></p><p>A big problem for you and your husband is that difficult child is 17 years old, and while in most things he is able to make his own decisions, you are legally liable for <em>everything</em> he does. I don't mean that he would go out and do something crazy, but even a easy child can be a teenager. Leave the water on and flood the house, and you are financially liable for that. We went to an attorney and paid $300 for a consult. It was the best $300 we spent in the entire mess. I would suggest that before you make any big decisions you consult an attorney and find out what your rights and obligations are, as well as what your difficult child's rights and obligations are.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 600008, member: 99"] I was there when M was 17. Thank goodness he had more credits than yours does, and he graduated HS by the skin of his teeth and through making his dad and I out to be crazies and moving in with a teacher against our wishes. But I digress. Pay for anything? Nah. M got his clothes and some books, and that was it. I would certainly offer him the counseling after I had found a counselor that was on the same page as you and your husband. I would mediate an agreement with a counselor present, and not one minute beforehand. I'm not quite understanding where he would live while he goes to summer school before you get him a shared accommodation? Or will you pay for SA while he is in summer school? Unless your difficult child has been honest and lived up to his end of bargains in the past, I would strike no grand bargains with him. Do you have health insurance that would cover a treatment facility? That's a safe place to live, and he can do schoolwork there. (The one we sent M to was of no help whatsoever, but we had no time for research. :( ) A big problem for you and your husband is that difficult child is 17 years old, and while in most things he is able to make his own decisions, you are legally liable for [I]everything[/I] he does. I don't mean that he would go out and do something crazy, but even a easy child can be a teenager. Leave the water on and flood the house, and you are financially liable for that. We went to an attorney and paid $300 for a consult. It was the best $300 we spent in the entire mess. I would suggest that before you make any big decisions you consult an attorney and find out what your rights and obligations are, as well as what your difficult child's rights and obligations are. [/QUOTE]
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